An Open Letter To The Guy That Broke My Best Friend’s Heart

An Open Letter To The Guy That Broke My Best Friend’s Heart

It’s your loss. Not hers.

Dear Butthead,

There are far worse things I could have called you, and we both know you would deserve it, but I’m choosing to take the high road. I could go on and on about what a jerk you are; about how guilty you should feel for doing what you did. But we also both know that won’t do anything to your ego, or affect your future relationships. I won’t sit here and scold you, or tell you that you broke her. That you set fire to her heart and danced on the ashes. That you should pity her or think you had any impact on her confidence, her beauty or her spirit. But I will tell you this:

Do not dare pity her. For she was the sun and you were the dirt of the Earth. You needed her to grow and blossom.

Do not dare give yourself so much credit to think you or your actions changed her. Not her personality, her self-worth, or her strength. She is stronger because of you.

She just doesn’t know it yet.

My best friend is striking, insightful, and significant in ways you could never understand or hope to understand. She is worthy and strong. She was good to you in ways you never could have appreciated. She was your loss, not the other way around. You did not know her like I do, like I always have. I see someone capable of overcoming loss, who has done it before and will certainly do it again. I see someone who loves with her whole heart and nothing less.

She may not see it within herself but I do. I see a girl who is so much more than what you made her out to be. You were not what she needed. She needs – no, deserves – someone who loves her as much as her best friend does. Someone who never lets her forget how well she deserves to be treated. Someone who reminds her every day that she is good enough, because I know for a fact that she is. And so do you, whether you choose to admit it or not.

So if you see her in the future, blissfully happy with a new you; let her be. If you’re jealous or downhearted and think about reaching out to her, just let her be. Smile for her. Be grateful that she found someone who finally gave her the things you could not, for whatever reason. Be the man she knew you could be, deep down inside. If you loved her like you said you did, let her be. She deserves that much from you.


Your Ex’s Best Friend

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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Pride: A poem

Hell, I still love you.


The word love

Is a very complex one;

Often times thrown around

far more often than it should be.

I knew the true meaning of love when

I first laid my eyes upon you

You were perfect.

Perfect in ways you could not even yet conceptualize.

I gave you life;

But, you became my life.

Your first word.

Your first day at school.

Moments that made life worth living.

One day you said you felt different;

You didn't feel like everyone else;

You'd felt this way for years

But this feeling was not just a feeling;

It was who you were.

The masses played with video games and played rough sports—

You didn't;

You were delicate.

Far more delicate than other boys.

You may not have played with the same toys,

But, hell, I still love you.

It only seems like yesterday,

You told me you had gone astray

From the normal social stigma

But you are still my little boy,

And, hell, I still love you.


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