A Letter To The Girl I Left In 2017

A Letter To The Girl I Left In 2017

I'm leaving behind the person I was, the person I loved, because that girl will only continue to grow in 2018.

I once was told by a very intelligent man, one of my creators: in life, you have to expect that change is the only thing you can count on. I thought that was the most beautiful thing I ever heard because change is so beautiful.

You have to hope that one day you'll change, for the better, I hope. In 2017, boy did things change. I'm leaving behind the person I was, the person I loved because that girl will only continue to grow in 2018.

I'm leaving behind the depression. I'm leaving behind the nights curled up in my bed, crying and not knowing why. I am leaving behind that girl who hurt because this one will not hurt anymore.

I'm leaving behind the guilt. I'm leaving behind the feeling of sorrow for doing something I should've because I'm done feeling guilty for bettering myself.

I am embracing the natural beauty and done covering up each flaw with an expensive bronzer. I am done pretending someone I'm not.

I will take off the skin 2017 coated with to become someone brand new because change is beautiful.

I will not let the new me hurt like I let you. I will not let the words of people bruise my skin like it did you. I will not pretend that I am someone else like I did you.

I will embrace the new me, finally.

You have taught me great lessons that I will grow from. You have helped me become a better me, and showed me that it's only up from here. You have empowered me and loved me as much as you could.

And you have warmed my heart and let me know that now I will have to go, and better myself more.

You have lost things you once loved but, only made me stronger to gain something I love more this year. You have taught me how to be strong not only for other people but for yourself.

"All change is hard as first, messy in the middle and so beautiful at the end."

Cover Image Credit: Brooke Albright

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value.

Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.


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The Beautiful Benefits Of Mindfulness

Being mindful is important for self-improvement and growth.


As a college student, life can be stressful. One must juggle a social life, academics, and sometimes a part-time job to boot. It's not an easy task, and with daily interactions with others, drama is sure to ensue.

A good way to go about dealing with stress and conflict is mindfulness. Mindfulness is about focusing on the present, letting go of the past, and not fixating on the future. It's about enjoying the here and now, and appreciating your life — rather than lamenting it.

Focusing intently on the future or past events is not healthy, especially for personal growth. One cannot change the past, no matter how much they want to. Obsessing over past grievances and transgressions will do no one any good and is a fruitless endeavor. Planning for the future rather than enjoying the present takes away from the joys of living.

As a human, it's natural to feel hurt and to hold grudges. We want apologies when people are mean or have wronged us. However, we can't control others' actions — only how we react to and behave. Mindfulness is about being the bigger person, letting go of personal vendettas and not being petty.

It's hard to do this, especially as people often are reluctant to accept their role in the conflict. It's hard to accept not being right, especially when conflict occurs. The best remedy for this is to acknowledge the other side, empathize with the person you're in conflict with, and then accept what has happened.

Mindfulness allows us to stay in the present, become more self-aware, and not overreact to events in life. No one can control what happens in their life or how people behave. It's vain to think so.

Meditation and mindfulness are very similar. They both allow people to slow down, think, and contemplate things. It's effective in reducing stress, accepting misfortunes, and letting go of the little things. Mindfulness is also crucial in learning self-love and forgiveness.

It's common for people to be their own worst enemy. It's hard to forgive ourselves, especially when we make mistakes and let people down. No one wants to feel like a failure or to disappoint people. But beating ourselves up isn't the solution — it only allows one to wallow in self-pity rather than learn and grow from their mistakes. No one is perfect — we all mess up in life. It's how we learn from our mistakes and grow from them that makes the difference.

Forgiving ourselves is hard, but forgiving other is even harder. Learning to empathize and sympathize with someone who has wronged us is a marker of true character, and frees us. Hatred is a terrible emotion that ties down both parties. It's beneficial to let go of hatred and learn to accept.

Learning mindfulness is incredibly helpful, as it allows people to move on from the past, stop fixating on the future, and instead live fully in the present.

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