Whispers of suicidal thoughts, tendencies, and attempts are all around us, but we choose to ignore them. The stigmatized topic of suicide has run its course. There are dialogs to be had, and words to be spoken. A lot of us want to show our support, but just don't know how. I recently heard about a friend of a friend who attempted suicide. My heart hurts for him, and I wish I could reach out to him, so here it is.

To the friend contemplating suicide. You may not know me and I may not know you, but I am your friend. I cannot pretend to understand. I cannot pretend to know what you’re going through. I may never know what you're feeling, but I am here. You are not any less of person because of how you feel. You will not go unmissed or unheard of.

I am here to talk, sit in silence, or leave you alone. You don't have to say anything, but I want to be here for you. Whatever you need, just name it. I want you to know that the world will miss you. You are precious and loved and unique. The world will never have another person just like you, so please don't deprive it of the gift that is you. You are always welcome and cherished here. This an open invitation for acceptance.

You are not alone in this. So many other people are feeling exactly how you feel. Many of us want to be here for you, but you have to reach out to us. We don't want to be pushy or force ourselves onto you, but we truly care about your well-being.

Don't be afraid to focus on yourself for once. Make changes where they need to be made. You are not helpless. You are strong and empowered. People will understand that you have to make improvements so that you can be happy. Don't hesitate to ask for advice, help, or outside opinions

Things may be tough now, and I can't promise you that they'll get better, but there are always things to be happy about. The world can be a terrible place. It's full of lying, stealing, and death; don’t be tied into Mean World Syndrome. The world is also a marvelous place filled with sunrises, generosity, and beautiful people. The world has more love to offer than hate.

Take this letter as a promise. A promise that you are loved and treasured. A promise to not treat you differently because of how you feel. A promise to not be afraid to talk about reality. I promise to acknowledge that what you're going through is a real problem and to work to increase awareness.

If you or a loved one need suicide-related resources you may contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.