It took time to find your best friend. Endless days and nights without her, and at one moment, you find her. Whether it was in a coffee shop, during a basketball game, or your first day of college, you found her. It was as if the whole world stopped and you knew she was your best friend. Now, you only wish the best for her. You spend your days protecting her from the wrong kind of guys. Therefore, you have a set of standards laid out for your best friend’s future husband. This is a letter to my best friend’s future husband.

Dear (Insert Name Here),

I know it might seem odd, a girl you don’t even know writing you a letter, threat, guidelines, whatever you may call it; but this is important and I need you to take notes. First off, my best friend is special, her heart is bigger than most. Empathetic, caring, and selfless; your future wife will be your forever-caretaker. At any point that you take this act of kindness to a new level, you will meet the other side of me. With being your caretaker, she will also be your best friend. Sports are a must for her; she loves to watch them, play them, and learn about them. Her favorite car is a Jeep Wrangler, and she prefers it in white.

In the morning, when you go to wake her up, she enjoys getting her hair smoothed across her cheeks and tucked behind her ear. Although she is a gentle soul, she is definitely not a morning person. If you happen to mess up the process of waking her up, and you hear a slight growl or groan, just cuddle her close to your chest and try and understand. It will only last a short amount of time. She loves music in the morning, so make sure to put speakers in your bathroom. When she is getting ready, you need to give her a good hour; not because she is high maintenance, but because she has a full one-woman concert in the bathroom while getting ready.

When times get ugly and you start questioning your future wife, look back on all of her corny pickup lines and random dancing outbreaks; things will get better. When she is on that special time of month and gets that visit from ‘Aunt Flow’, just remember it’s not you. She will snap, yell, and cry, but don’t take it personally. Be a man and take that nasty insult with dignity, dude! In return, you will not yell, you will not scream, and you will not leave; instead, you will take her butt to Starbucks, get her a mocha frappe and a chocolate cake pop.

When you get into a fight, remember to never bring up a woman’s physical appearance, past mistakes, or underlying flaws; focus on the issue at hand, it will help your relationship in a long run. My best friend is a die hard romantic; she spent most of her life stuck into lustful fairy tales and chick flicks. You will be her knight in shining armor. Whether you are muscular or twig-like, she will view you as her prince charming, her Edward Cullen, her Leonardo DiCaprio. This means you have a pretty big plate to fill; she knows you can’t be perfect and sparkle in the sunlight, but she expects you to put in effort. Unlike Rose in Titanic, my best friend is the kind of girl who would recognize the door is big enough for the two of you. There would be no reasons for you to make irrational sacrifices in the relationship; just be reasonable.

In the end, just remember to love her. She is my best friend, my go-to, and my everything. I have spent days and nights with her; I know every little thing about her. If you happen to break her heart, I will be there to fix it and break you. I will do anything for my best friend. If she decides that you are the one, I will accept it. However, don’t think I will be out of your guys' life. I will be there, eating your food, petting your animals, and eventually playing with your children. Why? Because she was my life before she met you, and she will forever STILL be in my life when you’re in it. Thank you for understanding.

Sincerely,
The Best Friend