A Letter To The Bride On Her Wedding Day

A Letter To The Bride On Her Wedding Day

Just remember, the longest sentence you can form with two words is "I do."
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To the beautiful bride,

It seems hard to believe that the day we once dreamed about while we played pretend for hours has finally arrived. Today is your wedding day! It's crazy to think that after all of these years of dreaming and scheming up not only the ideal wedding but also the perfect man that you are about to have both. Plus, you finally get to wear the beautiful white dress that you finally chose after so much thought as well as see each and every wedding detail that you pinned on your Pinterest wall come to life. I might actually see why people say that your wedding is one of the best days of your life.

I'm not even the one getting married and I am beyond excited for your wedding day. I know that you have chosen a wonderful man to be your future husband just as I am sure that you both are aware of how incredibly lucky you are to have found one another. In the time that you two have been together, it has been a true joy to watch your relationship grow from friendship to more. (But, honestly, from the moment you both met, everyone knew how that story was going to end). Watching you wait for the right man to enter your life and later fall in love with him, has given me hope that one day I will also find the once-in-a-lifetime, fairy-tale love that you have found in your soon-to-be-husband. As your bridesmaid and cousin, I am obligated to tell you that I will be there to help you each and every step of the way on your wedding day, but there are other things that I want to promise you.

This is your wedding day, a day that you have looked forward to since the time that you were a little girl. With that being said, I want today to be as perfect as you have always imagined that it would be. Therefore, as your bridesmaid I promise to hold your dress while you pee because let's be honest, that dress is heavy and hard to maneuver on your own and it is my hope that someday you will do the same for me. I also promise to not "ohhh and ahhh" over your dress too much because even though the dress you have chosen is gorgeous, it will never compare to the beauty that you possess. You have a beauty that shines from the inside out and on this special day, I want you to know that you look gorgeous because it is my hope that you will for once believe it. Also, I will be sure to do whatever it is you ask me to do on that day because your wedding day is all about you and your future husband celebrating your love and start of a new life together. There is something so incredible about that that I want you to be able to look back on this special day and remember it fondly. Even though everything will not go the way you imagined it to and may cause some confusion or frustrations, please remember this line from one of our favorite chick-flicks—27 Dresses.

I wish you and your future husband the best of luck in the future, even though I know that you two are on the road to marital bliss as we speak. I hope that your wedding day is everything that you always dreamed that it would be and strengthens the bond that you and your love share. I know that someday you will be able to look back on this hectic time with fond memories and know that it was all worth it in the end. But for now, simply enjoy the day and don't forget to actually smash some cake in his face.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

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We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Shockingly, There Is Strength In Being Weak

Abandon the idea that you do not deserve to be taken care of. You do!

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The one challenge in having a brave face, is others never considering there are moments you may not be. It is a beautiful yet complicated gift to be able to provide comfort to others. To be the person your friends and family turns to in times of crisis. Just remember that those who offer help, may need help sometimes too.

Lately, I have been struggling. Having flares of anxiety and repetition of old behaviors, that I am not so proud of. I am so kind to others facing struggle, but I have yet to understand the importance of offering myself the same respect.

Some may suggest therapy, seeking out health professionals. For many that may work. And if that is a tool that works for you, power to you! If you feel comfortable with the process pursue it! For myself, I am not. And I will tell you why.

I have yet to swallow my pride. To understand that the strong fail too. Oh how I despise failing. And I think fear of failure comes from my own personal expectations, to hold it "together". Because if I fall, who will those closest to me lean on? I have strength, therefore if I fall, we all do.

That may sound like an idiotic sentence, and while forming the words I recognize how false a statement it is. However, this is a deep rooted issue for many individuals. And for me this is something I struggle with. Allowing for the world to see my weakness.

One of my best friends, who has recently opened my eyes said to me, " To have the courage to ask for help is not you showing weakness, but strength." It takes a great deal of strength to open up. I find myself suppressing my emotions. Meanwhile, I write weekly about confronting your past. Yet I struggle in the practice I preach.

That is not weakness, yet it is a glimpse of reality. I am thankful for my friend, who noticed a shift within me, to speak up and make sure that I recognize that I am falling. Sometimes you cannot only rely on yourself, and you need to admit that you need help.

My greatest joy is helping others but again I cannot find the generosity in my heart to offer it to myself. I was wrestling with the "why". Why I cannot allow for others to worry about me, why I simply do not want other people to worry about me. It is because that is my job. Then I realized, being a brave individual goes hand in hand with wanting control.

I struggle with allowing for myself to be a mess. To admit when I have lost control of who I am. The issue with a brave face? You rarely let others see you cave. So those around you assume you are stedfast, strong, in control, without a shadow of a doubt ; okay.

I understand not each individual is intuitive. That people miss the signs of when others emotional well beings are compromised. I am grateful for my best friend and her intuitive mind and heart. Recognizing that I have not been completely myself as of late, just an extension.

For those of you , who feel you lack the skill. Those who are not capable of reading between the lines, noticing lack of bravery, please I advise you to check up on the ones who you are usually so sure that are "okay". A simple, "how are you", goes a very long way.

I know I was hoping all day that someone would recognize I was not so myself and ask the question. Thankfully, my best friend did. It is nice to know someone sees you. To understand that you're human, and to remind you that you're human. The brave are allowed to fall.

I note that this also means, the brave need to allow for transparency. Because when you allow for others to see your struggle, it is easier for them to then offer a helping hand. Break your silence, even if it proves that you are not always brave.

Each individual has strengths and weaknesses. My weakness? Being weak. Allowing for myself to strip off the mask of " I am okay", and revealing the " I am not okay".

Again, to be brave is in fact a complicated gift. Being emotionally strong for others, does not mean you do not deserve to also be taken care of. To be offered the same respect of healing and love. Leave behind the idea that those managing others issues, means they can manage their own. Even the bravest of walls can come falling down.

It does not take long to ask a three worded question; " How are you?" I hope those are brave enough to answer honestly.

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