We All Need To Start Embracing Safe Spaces And Trigger Warnings

We All Need To Start Embracing Safe Spaces And Trigger Warnings

If you notice a pattern of teens needing mental health help, you aren't stupid.

One of the fan-favorite topics of people age 30 and up is complaining about how millennials need "safe spaces" and how we're softies that need trigger warnings, judgment free-zones, and avocado toast.

I see propaganda plastered across my Facebook timeline comparing eighteen-year-old kids who stormed the beaches of Normandy or the jungles of Vietnam and who were incredibly tough and had "real" problems, as opposed to us millennials, who apparently only have problems like what we are drinking on Friday nights, or whether or not to message our prospective significant others through text or Snapchat.

If we give these teenagers "safe spaces," they will never learn how to survive in the real world, they need to grow up and face the music that life isn't always ideal and pretty.

Thanks, Shelly, no shit. But I'm going to help you understand why your views of safe spaces are problematic.

There's this awesome concept that was created long before trigger warnings and safe spaces and it's called the "American Dream." This is the idea that your kids should be more successful than their parents were, and therefore, over time subsequent generations improve exponentially. Success can be measured in a million different ways, but a few popular ones are determined by things like monetary wealth, love (platonic, romantic, or familial), equality, health, power, and influence.

The applicable American Dream here is health, and more specifically, mental health. Just because kids "back in the day" didn't receive as much therapy, prescriptions, and other helpful assets such as safe spaces and trigger warnings, doesn't mean that it wasn't needed.

Mental health has evolved for a reason, and just because we get more, does not make us weaker, it makes us stronger.

By this, I mean stronger in the sense that we get help when we need it, we do less self-medicating with drugs and alcohol, and we focus our attention more. The number of college students who take summer classes and have jobs and internships has soared in the last few decades, and there's something to be said about that. We are not lazier than generations before us, we just use our energy on other priorities.

We should be happy that our society is taking steps in normalizing mental health problems, and taking action to help the people who need it the most. Shaming kids for being open about their problems is the most backward form of parenting (or grandparenting, as the case may be) possible.

If you consider people needing help a problem, then you are the problem.

The way we treat people needing help with their mental health is completely barbaric, and leaving kids alone about their safe spaces and trigger warnings is step number one.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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Refugees Are Human Beings, No Exceptions

Stop acting like their brown lives don't matter.


Earlier this week photos arose informing the world that Trump had decided to tear gas migrants seeking asylum at the US-Mexican border. Seventy-plus refugee men, women and children were seen caught in a cloud of painful gas as they fled from what had seemed to be their only protection.

They were a part of a caravan of over 5,000 refugees traveling from far and wide seeking protection. They fled widespread gang violence and extreme poverty, which left them no choice but to leave for a better life or die.

Despite our country's raging racism and domestic terrorism issues, it seems like a vacation compared to the conditions the refugees have to deal with. Many believe that the motivation to come to the U.S. stems from a noble cause to make money for your family and start anew, but these refugees are running for their lives. Their home countries, wrecked by U.S. policies that forced convicted criminals back, suffer from an infestation of gang activities and civil wars.

Their youth are enticed into gangs in order to support their families and an endless cycle of gang violence and continued inequalities creates a dangerous atmosphere. Local police and judicial systems try to control the violence but gangs are so rampant there seems to be no solution.

There is danger at every corner and the only light seems to be America, a predominately Christian country founded by immigrants fleeing persecution and danger.

Rather than being met with help and kindness, a tyrant of a president has continuously failed to meet the requirements of normal humanity. Placing them in cages, separating families, tear gassing children; it seems as if these brown lives also do not matter to the president.

Refugees are humans, with families and needs just like our own. They seek help and safety, nothing more, and as human beings, we must extend them kindness. Our country claims to be a world superpower, "effectively" delegating wars from afar and balancing world peace. But what is to say about what's happening to our neighbor's next door? How could we ignore the atrocities they continue to face as if they do not share the same Earth as ours?

The treatment we continue to see forced upon these refugees is disgusting especially since the Christmas season nears. Seventy-five percent of Americans identify as Christian, with 73% of the GOP identifying as Christian, and yet they lack the human decency and Christian duty to care for refugees.

It seems they have forgotten their own Savior was a refugee, seeking shelter and kindness where none was found. It seems their kindness only extends to their close circle, eliminating a chance for these brown lives to matter. It seems like American Christians have strayed far from their faith to appeal to political ideology and a burnt orange tyrant who cares about only himself.

Refugees are human beings. They are important and they are in danger. Stop treating them like their brown lives do not matter.

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