We have finally completed our first whole month of 2018, and it felt like a long one. Already in 31 days, I have some incredible new gains in life, but I've already lost some people. Whether that be friends, relationships, etc., so much has already happened. I was, of course, upset that I lost some people that I thought were permanent. But, I have made a decision this year. This comes from my best friend who texts me this every single day, and she has finally broken through my tough skull. The decision is..

If they want to leave, let them leave in 2018.

If they don't want to be friends with you, that's fine. You probably have better friends that love and care about you more than they ever could. If they don't want to be in a relationship with you, they're weak, and that's not your fault. If anyone in your life is showing or saying that they don't want to be with you anymore, just let them go. It is way harder to do than it sounds but trust me, it is so much healthier. When you go to the grocery store, you don't pick out the bag of apples, a carton of raspberries, based off which has the quantity. You pick out what looks the best. Do the same with your friends. Have those quality people in your life, and your life will be filled with happiness and laughter. These negative people pull you down, let them go.

This goes for you leaving. If you're tired of seeing someone's post, de-friend or unfollow that person. If you don't like to be around someone, you don't have to be around them. If you are unhappy in a relationship, leave it. Unhappy relationships go on for a long time because the individuals in the relationship feel like they can't find anyone else or they are afraid to be single. It is okay to be scared of being single because it's better than being with someone who just doesn't do anything for you.

I know that being left and leaving is hard. I have the hardest time letting people go and leaving negative people. I want to believe that people can change and I naively think, I will be the person that changes them. That is not the case, however. People do not change but you can change the patterns in your life of holding onto negativity. You are your best thing in this life, start prioritizing what is best for you this year, even if that means doing the hardest thing and let go of people that you don't want too.