Sometimes, life throws you curveballs that throw you for a loop. Then it throws some fast balls that hit you while you’re already down and makes you feel as though nothing could go right ever again. It makes you feel like that happiness you craved and finally found meant nothing because all of a sudden, you were back where you started. That can be one of the scariest things in the world, to back track and feel like everything you’ve done to fix and find yourself was for nothing and you have no one to turn to again.

Throughout the years, watch yourself. You’ll find yourself changing. As slowly as it will happen, you will. When you’re back is against the wall for the umpteenth time, you’ll find yourself panicking like always. You’ll wonder what you could have done, said, posted, commented, anything, until it drives you crazy and you start to lose sleep. But one time, you’ll be able to stop yourself. Sure, it is A-okay to let yourself wallow in sorrow for a few days, but then that voice in your head will tell you to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and that it isn’t worth it. Listen.

We, as human beings with conscience and emotions, always want to fix things, even if we don’t know what it is that we’re trying to fix or know we did not do anything that needs fixing. As great of a quality as that is, it can get us into trouble easily. At the drop of a pin, the first sign of something amiss, we let our emotions overwhelm us and break down, pining away trying to find out what happened, what we supposedly did wrong. Eventually, we give up and give in to the distractions of the night around us, just enough to forget all the baggage we are carrying, old and new.

The hours turn into days and you continue on in every day life, still talking, still working hard, still…laughing, smiling. Look at yourself! Yes, you are still doing it. You are still being yourself, being happy, even though you’ve solved nothing. Do you know why that is? There is absolutely nothing solve. You’ve tried your best to come to a solution, to work things out, talk them out, and you’ve got nothing left to give. This time, you know that and you know it isn’t worth it anymore.

Let it go. It feels like a breath of fresh air when you realize and accept within yourself that you’ve done nothing wrong, yet tried so hard to fix it and still came up empty. Of course you’ll have days where you miss that person that cut you out of their life or wronged you and vice versa, but you’re okay. You finally understand that something so small in the grand scheme of things is not worth the stress, the time, or the worrying.

While people go ahead and try to sort things out on their own when you’ve offered all the help you can and avoid the situations, so be it. On your end, just listen you yourself and let it go.