The Lessons You Taught Me

We Have Since Grown Apart, But You Taught Me So Much

The good and the bad.


My mom likes to tell me people come into your life and leave at certain points, but there always is a reason for their presences in it. It could be to teach you a lesson, bring some happiness into your life for a period of time, show you a different side of life, or be a close friend.

Recently a close friend of mine decided it was their time to leave, and though I am extremely upset, I am also very appreciative of the lessons this person has taught me during our friendship.

I'll start with the positive things...

You've developed in me a thinking process of learning to love myself more. You showed me that yes, I may not look like an Instagram model, but in someone's eyes, I will be. All of the imperfections I see within myself, someone else will think they are what makes me beautiful, you always called them "my quirks".

You taught me that not everyone has to like me. I was shown that it was ok, because the people in that are in my life, love to be in my presence.

When we met I was a bit of a futuristic thinking person. I was always worried about the future and what it would hold, even if it was just what my plans were for that night. You showed me to slow down and take things day by day. It's okay to not know what is going to happen further down the path of your life, not everything has to be planned out.

There are many other positives lessons you brought to my life, but these are the ones that I am most thankful for. Along with these though, there were some negatives to this friendship.

I learned from you not to keep chasing after a person I know isn't giving me their full effort. If I feel as though something has developed into a one-sided friendship, then that should be a red flag for me. I shouldn't have to be the one to keep trying to make everything work if the other person isn't trying as hard as I am.

The biggest thing I learned from this whole thing is that I can't change myself to make someone else happy. If they don't like me for me, that is their problem. I have noticed that I may not be as strong as a person as I was when we first became friends. I used to never let myself get pushed around, because why should I?

I changed that because if I upset you, said something you didn't like or made you angry, you would say you're ditching me, and I would get upset because I didn't want that.

The final lesson is one that I will tell you hurt the most, yet also is the one I needed to learn. Sometimes, you just have to let go. I can not control when people come, or when they go. I can not control how they choose to leave, even if it may hurt. Even if you try your hardest to keep them around and make everything work.

To the person I once considered one of my best friends, thank you for all the lessons you taught me. I hope I taught you some too.

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Senior year of college is a weird time for everyone. We're right on the verge of being independent adults but sometimes we just refuse to grow up. Since the first day of our senior year, my roommates and I have been in constant denial that we will ever have to graduate and face reality. As the year quickly comes to an end, I've had time to reflect on all of the weird things that have gone on in our apartment.

These are 16 of them and I'm sure we're not the only ones with a wild story.

1. Photoshop happens, way too often.

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This one in particular was a masterpiece.

2. One roommate believes they're good at gymnastics and decides to practice on the kitchen floor

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This ended with some bruises...

3. The other roommate goes down, hard, on the kitchen floor

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4. Too many roommates in one bed, usually results in a broken bed

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Too many roommates in a king bed did not end so well.

5. One roommate decides she's religious

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This was a shocker to all of us.

6. The same roommate then comes home accompanied by five paramedics and two police officers

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Which ended in me signing as the sober guardian.

7. The roommates clean up their act because one of the roommates' parents come to visit

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Just three innocent angels

8. The two most mathematically challenged roommates attempt to plan a school trip

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9. Wigs happen

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10. The roommates become the incredibles

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Nothing like homemade costumes.

11. The roommates attempt to dye their own hair

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Honestly it came out pretty good, aside from a little hair loss.

12. One roommate takes a trip to the ER

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13. The roommates clean the apartment (rare)

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14. One roommate believes she can fly

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**Goes sky diving once**

15. Banana suits also happen

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I'm not sure what to say about this photo.

16. The roommates then make a viral video of their adventures to conclude their senior year

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