Cut toxic people out of your life

This idea seems pretty straightforward, but it is much easier said than done. These people could be your partner, long-time friends, roommates, or anyone. You don’t owe them anything, especially if they haven’t been nurturing the relationship. Your history with them doesn’t matter if they don’t appreciate you now. People who don’t lift you up aren’t worth your time or your energy.

Bottle Less, Vent Often

Emotions are finicky and shouldn’t have as much control as they do over the average person. Regardless, it’s never good to bottle them up. Find someone or a group of people who will listen and offer either a listening ear or helpful advice. Seek people who will give you the validation of your feelings when you want it and the criticism when you need it.

Be Mature

High school never ends. You will be forced to listen to gossip about your co-workers or about your boss. You’ll probably be at the crux of an office rumor at some point, and it’s important to handle these situations like an adult. Be upfront and be honest. Keep your happiness in your sights at all times because at the end of the day, you’re the only one who is in control of that.

People Change

It happens, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Sometimes, situations change or people end up not being what you expected. The people who grow with you will be in your life forever; those who grow away from you are not necessary for your well-being. Their role in your life is over, and that’s completely okay.

Make Time for Yourself

In the words of Tom Haverford, “Treat Yo’Self.” You deserve it…In moderation, of course. Don’t go and spend $500, but you definitely can spare the $3 for a Reese’s or even $40 for a new pair of shoes that you weren’t necessarily planning on getting. If you have the means, spend a little time and money on yourself will go a long way.

Build Your Own Happiness

This one may be the most important thing that I’ve learned this whole year. Relying on yourself is something everyone should practice. Self-love has taken the world by storm, and it’s a concept that many people struggle with. Finding happiness in other people is not a bad thing, but finding your only happiness in other people can be dangerous for your feelings. Self-Reliance is deeper than just monetary wealth; your feelings are included, and no one will treat you as well as you do.

Stop Comparing Your Life to Others'

This will be the biggest waste of time, and I have lost sleep over it. Whether it’s trying to convince yourself that your life is better or vice versa, it’s not worth it. Everyone moves at their own pace and there will be times when everything seems completely unfair, but take it with a grain of salt. Let it roll off and don’t worry about it.

2015 has been a very eye-opening year, and it has been one of frustration and introspection. A year of learning and personal growth, and I’m eagerly awaiting the new lessons in 2016.