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5 Lessons My Parents Taught Me That I'll Pass Down To My Kids

My parents instilled many lessons in me as a young child that helped shape the person I am today, and will hopefully shape my future children into the people they will become.


Everyone is raised differently. The parents or guardians of a child take eighteen long years to turn that child into the kind of person they want them to be. Children are taught different ways of life, different values, and find importance in different things. Personally, I grew up in a Catholic household with parents who always believed there was more to life than just what was right in front of you. Here is a list of the important life lessons that my parents taught me that shaped me into who I am today - these lessons being ones that I hope to one day pass on to my own children.

1. Fighting your own battles

Growing up, my parents always gave me my independence. I did my own school work, chose my own friends, and decided what I wanted to do. I can't ever recall a time my parents talked to teachers about my grades and they definitely didn't get me out of the messes my smart mouth always got me in. They were always in my corner but left it up to me to throw the punches (metaphorically, of course).

2. You might not always be right

Your parents are the type of people that always have your back, and while mine are no exceptions, my parents NEVER took my side if they thought I was in the wrong. Bringing a child up in a world where they think they're always right in the eyes of their parents can throw them in for a rude awakening when the real world hits, and I'm grateful my parents were there to tell me when I had messed up. They taught me to apologize and come to terms with the fact that I might not always be right.

3. Empathy

While empathy isn't something everybody is always very good at (myself included), it's an important aspect of being a well-rounded adult. Being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes is a noble trait--one that we all should strive for.

4. Don't take anything too seriously

Right off the bat, I have to thank my dad for teaching me to never take anything too seriously. It's easy to get caught up in all the stressful occurrences that come with life, but learning to step back and laugh at yourself or the situation is something I'm grateful my father instilled in me.

5. The difference between being polite and being "fake"

In today's society, it's common to call someone "fake" when they put on a false persona around someone that they might not necessarily like. However, in my household, we were ALWAYS taught to be polite to someone's face, even if we didn't necessarily like them. In high school, I had always been that way: I would openly admit to my friends that I found someone annoying or didn't like being in their presence, yet I would still smile at said person in the hallways, say hello if I saw them in public, or agree to take a picture of them at a football game. I think people misunderstand the difference between the two, and I hope I can teach my children the difference between them one day.

Every family has something to offer their child: memories, wisdom, values, etc. I'm grateful for the wisdom that my parents unknowingly passed down to me and I hope they never read this article because I don't want to boost their egos.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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22 Times Mom And Dad Were Right, Even If I Hate To Admit Being Wrong

You have always been there for me, no matter what, and I appreciate it with my whole heart.


I have been blessed with two amazing parents. Since the day I was born, they were always there to support me in the big ways and the small ways — from always cheering me on at my volleyball games to sending me care packages at school to calling me for encouragement before an interview to sending me daily "good morning, have a good day" messages.

The lessons that they have taught me in my 22 years on this beautiful earth have not gone unnoticed, even though I may not have always listened to them.

1. When they told me that I will never disappoint them, as long as I am trying my best.

2. When they told me that I deserve to be treated with respect.

3. When they told me that I would survive heartbreak.

4. When they told me that some friends are not life-long friends. 

5. When they told me to bring a jacket whenever I go out.

6. When they told me that growing up is not all fun and games and to enjoy the present moment.

7. When they told me that some people in life are just, well, mean and bitter. 

8. When they told me that it is okay to take time for myself and to put myself first sometimes.

9. When they told me that people need to earn my trust. 

10. When they told me that God has a plan, even though it may not be the same as my plan.

11. When they told me to treat others the way I want to be treated, even if they treated me poorly.

12. When they told me to always send a thank you note, email, text message, or phone call.

13. When they told me that honesty is the best policy and that karma will bite me in the butt.

14. When they told me to be humble, but to be proud of my successes. 

15. When they told me to love my body and my brain just the way they are.

16. When they told me to find my passion and to follow it with all of my heart.

17. When they told me to think before I speak so that I do not say anything that I will regret.

18. When they told me I would survive, even when I thought something was the end of the world.

19. When they told me to learn from my failures instead of ignoring them. 

20. When they told me to stand by my beliefs, even if that meant standing alone.

21. When they told me that small gestures go a long way. 

22. When they told me that they will always love me, even when I am being stubborn or mean or disrespectful or annoying. 

Thank you, Mommy and Daddy. I love you so much.

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