To The Girl Who Doesn't Know If She Should Leave Her Hometown

To The Girl Who Doesn't Know If She Should Leave Her Hometown

From the girl that did.


I grew up in a small town of roughly 8,000 people. No chain establishments, nothing really open past 10 pm, and virtually no chance you can go out and not see someone you know. Towns like these are who you are. Literally everywhere in the town is flooded with memories of your childhood. You know who owns the downtown stores and who is working which nights at your favorite restaurants. It's all you know, and you know it so well.

I love my town. It's my home, it made me who I am now. It gave me a place to come home to on breaks after I decided to move 3,000 miles away to go to a great nursing school. Yep. As much as I love my town, I left. Let me just say that leaving isn't easy and I miss my home and my family very much. For me, however, it was worth it.

I left with the idea that I might fall in love with where I went to school and possibly want to stay there permanently. While I have fallen in love with the school and I love my people there, I know that after graduation, I'll most likely be headed home (at least I'd be more than open to it).

Leaving is also scary. Just imagine, at 18 leaving everything you've ever known and moving across the country. Doing the adult thing with no immediate fallback. No trips home so your parents can help when you're sick or help with laundry, or when you're stressed. That's scary. It's also an amazing feeling when you prove to yourself that you can do it. You're capable and you'll be okay. You'll be more than okay. You'll love the people and the customs of wherever you go. You'll make a new routine and new memories with new people. You'll make a second home, and you honestly might be a little sad to leave for the summer.

For me personally, I have seen tremendous growth in my self-confidence because of my move. I am so grateful that I have the chance to discover who I am for myself – away from my hometown, family, and the idea of who I was then. I've also gained a sense of security in my abilities. I'm a pro flyer, I figure out all my transportation, make and get myself to appointments, make my own schedule, and explore my own interests.

If I can offer any words of advice, it would be to go. Going does NOT mean you love your town, your family, or your friends any less. It just means that you get to figure out what it means to be your own person. You'll miss your town, your friends, and your family... and you'll come back to your home with a new appreciation and a better sense of who you are.

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Summer In College Is For More Than Just Working

No, you're never to hold to have fun in the summer.


There should never be an age where you stop having fun in the summer. The weather is nice, there are always things to do, and everyone is just naturally happier. So, regardless of whether you're 7 or 21, I'm talking to you.

During the year it can be hard to find a routine unless you are a very put together person. Sadly, I am not. Even when I tell myself I'm going to eat healthily, work out, and stop procrastinating, I usually don't follow through with that. At school, I find myself in somewhat of a constant catch-up mode. When I feel like I'm ahead on my homework or studying, that usually means I'm behind on being healthy in other aspects of my life. That is why I love summer. It's a chance to reset the clock for a second and catch your breath.

I get that having an internship or working is important for your post-graduation life, but having fun is important for your college years too. When you get a job in the real world, summer is going to look a lot different for you. That is why it's best to take advantage of the time now. This doesn't mean turning down that work experience, it means doing things other than just working.

First things first is finding a hobby you enjoy that you don't do at school. Pick it up for a little over the summer. Why not? For me, this is yoga. For whatever reason, I find myself too nervous to attend yoga classes at school. I have absolutely no reason to be anxious about doing something I like, but I am so I take the time to attend a few classes a week in the summer.

Secondly, try reading. Before you make that look of disgust on your face, think about the last time you read a book of your choosing. If it was recently, then kudos to you for managing your time well enough to do that. If you are not that person, then hello! I am talking to you. I am not a fan of reading because I usually associate it with homework. However, I find that when I have the time to browse the book section of a store for a few seconds, I find multiple books that jump out at me. During the summer I take the opportunity to read a little here and there. The nice part of leisure reading over school reading is that there's no deadline. You can read what you want when you want to.

Finally, learn something new. Again I usually associate learning with things that I am required to learn for my major. Learning something new that interests you is a different kind of rush. When I'm bored in class, I make bucket lists of little things I want to learn about. They can be big or small. One time I wanted to learn how to knit. Don't ask me why my 19-year-old self thought it would be sweet to sit on my porch in the summer knitting, but I did, and I'm kind of sad I didn't pursue that interest. When might I ever have time to learn how to knit again?

These might sound like quirky things to do, but you're young. Make a bucket list and try to cross one thing off each weekend. If you're like me, then you're a little scared of growing up. Scared you won't be able to accomplish all the things you want to. But, the fact of the matter is no one is going to make you accomplish them but you. So, take some initiative and do them. Summer is for more than just working; it's time to live a little and reset the clock.

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4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems

Contrary to the popular belief.


Let me start out by saying, I LOVE my boyfriend. He truly is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. However, when my single friends come to me complaining about how badly they want to be in a relationship because it will "take all of their problems away", I wish I could explain to them that the reality of being in a relationship just isn't that simple.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

Nor should you! Your significant other is a person with a life, not just a person to rant to all of the time. There will be times when you want to talk to them and they're busy with things going on in their own life, and that's okay. But you shouldn't think that being in a relationship with someone means your problems become their problems.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

So maybe you failed an exam and you're really upset about it. Or someone in your family is sick and you're worried about them. Or one of your friends was mean to you and you're mad at them. As much as your significant other might WANT to help, they aren't your fairy godmother. They can give you a big hug and tell you it's all going to be okay, but there are times when that just won't be enough.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

Having a significant other is like bringing another best friend into your already hectic life. On top of trying to balance all of the relationships you already have, this adds an entire new layer to your life. If you're already overwhelmed and stressed, getting into a relationship might make things even harder on yourself.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

Your significant other will bring an entirely new set of problems into your relationship, and while they aren't your own, you'll want to support them and be there for them. This means give and take on both ends of the relationship, and sometimes one person has to put in more effort than the other.

In the end, finding a boyfriend or girlfriend can't be the answer to all of your problems. I love my boyfriend and I am so glad he's a part of my life, but unfortunately I've realized that life has it's challenges with or without him by my side. I'm not saying you have to take my word for it, but if you're looking for a relationship that's going to make all of your problems disappear, you might be in it for the wrong reasons.

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