Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

​"When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves." - Viktor E. Frankl
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Change, it's inevitable.

Lately, I feel like that is all that's ever happening around me.

It's a weird thing to think about when everything you are so used to suddenly starts to slip from your fingers. When suddenly things don't feel how they used to feel. That's when you know something has changed.

Situations come, and sometimes, there is no other option than to change, whether it is for better or for worse.

Although sometimes, I feel like I have the whole "changing" thing figured out, I don't, and to be honest, I'm not sure if I ever will. Change is something I have never been good at and have always been scared of.

Many people fear change because it gives you the sense of losing control. When you don't feel in control of yourself, your life or a situation it can make you feel uneasy.

When people say that we are creatures of habit, they are not wrong.

As some may say repetition is key, it's easy to follow a routine because every day there are no surprises. Now, if that routine becomes out of order or something new gets added in, that's when people start to become panicked.

Some think of change like the ripple effect when you throw a pebble into the open water and continuous ripples start to form. Therefore, it is thought that if you change one part of your life, that means everything else will change as well, but this isn't entirely true.

Sometimes, the reason people are so scared of change is that they don't realize that is what they need most in life. People get so caught up in a daily routine or a bad situation that they start to think that it's the only way things should be.

It's OK to not feel in control sometimes.

It's OK to feel like things are different.

Without change, whether it's something small or something that is totally life changing, we would never learn to grow.

We need growth in order to become better people and make better decisions.

Recently, I have been trying to learn to love change and to understand why it is completely necessary.

Look at it like this: When you have the option to change something, why wouldn't you?

The last thing you should want is to be stuck in the same place, doing the same thing.

Take a moment, think about what you can change and do it.

I know I am only 21 years old, but it feels like there is already a lot changing around me, and I know there is much more to come.

After all, change is inevitable.

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1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

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13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

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...and I want people to know what my passions are.

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Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

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Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

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From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

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..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

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My Love-Hate Relationship with Starbucks

This is my oh so wonderful experience at Starbucks during the week of midterms.

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When I usually go to Starbucks, I typically get the same type of drinks: carmel macchiato, chai tea latte, chestnut praline chai tea latte (which sadly is only a holiday drink), or a shaken black tea lemonade with light ice. However, sometimes a person just gets bored drinking the same three drinks over and over, so I thought, "Hey! lets get out of our comfort zone here pal and try something new." So I did I walked my tired stressed out self to Starbucks 10 minutes before my next class and ordered a tall cinnamon shortbread latte, I mean the description and other peoples comments about it made it sound super good.


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As I was waiting for my drink I noticed that one of the baristas was having some issues with some type of syrup, but I thought that they would refill it and then add what they need, and that one probably wasn't even mine. When they did that, I saw them get a new jug of syrup and I went back onto my phone and to try and plan how I was going to get through this midterms week.

Quick info about midterms: everyone is dead, and everyone is stressed. Us college students literally live off of caffeine during midterms week. If you're lucky like me you are at school from 8 a.m. until 6 p.m., so the caffeine is really needed.


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Now soon after I saw the new jug come, my name was called. I grabbed my drink and walked like the walking zombie I was to my next class. I went in for my first drink I was so excited to have this sweet taste of vanilla, cinnamon and coffee...but what I got was the opposite. It literally tasted like a very burnt somewhat coffee and cinnamon edible without the marijuana affects, or for the non-edible people, a very bad tasting cookie that was missing all the sugar. I was not a happy camper one bit, but I was going to drink it anyway because I payed $4 for this coffee. I struggled drinking this during my writing class because it tasted terrible, but then out of no where I got this hit of sweet — I was drinking the sweet vanilla and the sweet cinnamon part of my drink minus the majority of the coffee since I was 3/4 done with the drink. I was seriously crying on the inside because I didn't get to enjoy this drink the way I needed.


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Then the realization hit me: 1. They probably didn't add in the missing parts of the syrup once it got refilled since they suddenly got busy. 2. They did not stir that drink one bit because all the syrup was literally at the bottom of the cup. If they did these, then the problem wouldn't have happened.

This is not the first time this has happened to me having all the syrup at the bottom of the cup at a Starbucks. Its not like I am able to swish it around myself because it is full to the top and I don't want hot coffee poured or splashed on my hand. Also, most people are on-the-go while they are drinking their coffee or doing other things. I have only had this issue at Starbucks and never at any other place have I had this issue like Anthem Coffee.


So can Starbucks just agree to always mix their drinks? So that the zombie college kids during midterms have good coffee to keep them alive?


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