Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

​"When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves." - Viktor E. Frankl

Change, it's inevitable.

Lately, I feel like that is all that's ever happening around me.

It's a weird thing to think about when everything you are so used to suddenly starts to slip from your fingers. When suddenly things don't feel how they used to feel. That's when you know something has changed.

Situations come, and sometimes, there is no other option than to change, whether it is for better or for worse.

Although sometimes, I feel like I have the whole "changing" thing figured out, I don't, and to be honest, I'm not sure if I ever will. Change is something I have never been good at and have always been scared of.

Many people fear change because it gives you the sense of losing control. When you don't feel in control of yourself, your life or a situation it can make you feel uneasy.

When people say that we are creatures of habit, they are not wrong.

As some may say repetition is key, it's easy to follow a routine because every day there are no surprises. Now, if that routine becomes out of order or something new gets added in, that's when people start to become panicked.

Some think of change like the ripple effect when you throw a pebble into the open water and continuous ripples start to form. Therefore, it is thought that if you change one part of your life, that means everything else will change as well, but this isn't entirely true.

Sometimes, the reason people are so scared of change is that they don't realize that is what they need most in life. People get so caught up in a daily routine or a bad situation that they start to think that it's the only way things should be.

It's OK to not feel in control sometimes.

It's OK to feel like things are different.

Without change, whether it's something small or something that is totally life changing, we would never learn to grow.

We need growth in order to become better people and make better decisions.

Recently, I have been trying to learn to love change and to understand why it is completely necessary.

Look at it like this: When you have the option to change something, why wouldn't you?

The last thing you should want is to be stuck in the same place, doing the same thing.

Take a moment, think about what you can change and do it.

I know I am only 21 years old, but it feels like there is already a lot changing around me, and I know there is much more to come.

After all, change is inevitable.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things. If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity towards this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you, if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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6 Tips To Survive The 'Rowan Plague'

How to get by this flu season.


If your school or workplace is like Rowan, a majority of people are taken down by an illness at the beginning of Fall. Here, we call it the "Rowan Plague". Even our on-campus health clinic has come to using the phrase while diagnosing students. Whether you are in a college residence hall with hundreds of other students or an office workplace with your fellow employees, there are a few ways to keep healthy this flu season.

1. Wash your hands.

Yes, with soap AND water. It's a cliché, but it's one of the best ways to wash off everything you've touched throughout the day. This is especially important before you eat. Think about everything you touch wherever you go and the thousands or millions of microbes that are transferred from that surface to your hands. No need to become a germaphobe, but being aware of health hazards can make a difference in avoiding the flu.

2. Avoid touching your face.

You would be surprised how many times you touch your face without realizing it. Keep your hands away from your face and your food as much as possible, especially if you're not a consistent hand-washer. The openings in your face (eyes, nose, and mouth, for instance) are key gateways into the body. Eat food while holding it in the wrapper. Avoid rubbing your face or eyes.

3. Just, don’t touch anything.

Thinking about it now, there are germs on everything. If you want to avoid getting sick, it may be best that you just don't touch anything. You could probably accomplish this a few different ways. Keep your hands in your pockets. Never leave your bed. Live in a clear bubble. Wear gloves all the time. All very good options.

4. Take constant showers.

Even while avoiding everything, you're bound to come into contact with infectious agents. They're in the air and on you, so you should probably just spend most of your day in the shower. When you step out of the shower, you're already getting things on you again, so just turn around and start again.

5. Avoid engineers.

This is especially relevant for Rowan because engineers are icky anyway, so it's only safe to assume they get ickier during flu season. It's my firm belief that Patient Zero of this year's epidemic started the spread of the "Rowan Plague" in the engineering building, and all the engineers have been disseminating the disease to the rest of us. Prevent illness and avoid engineers.

6. Avoid all people.

You're right. It's not fair to put that blanket statement on engineers. So, to make things easier and fair, just avoid everyone. Stay in the shower in your room, and just don't talk to or get too close to people. If you can keep that up until around December, you should be fine.

In all seriousness, "Rowan Plague" and flu season are times to be aware of your surroundings and be diligent with your sanitary practices. If you have a friend or a roommate that is sick, consider cleaning the apartment more frequently with disinfectant wipes or taking Vitamin C supplements. College is already bad enough, so do you really want to go through it sick?

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