Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

Change Is Inevitable, And I Am Learning To That

​"When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves." - Viktor E. Frankl
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Change, it's inevitable.

Lately, I feel like that is all that's ever happening around me.

It's a weird thing to think about when everything you are so used to suddenly starts to slip from your fingers. When suddenly things don't feel how they used to feel. That's when you know something has changed.

Situations come, and sometimes, there is no other option than to change, whether it is for better or for worse.

Although sometimes, I feel like I have the whole "changing" thing figured out, I don't, and to be honest, I'm not sure if I ever will. Change is something I have never been good at and have always been scared of.

Many people fear change because it gives you the sense of losing control. When you don't feel in control of yourself, your life or a situation it can make you feel uneasy.

When people say that we are creatures of habit, they are not wrong.

As some may say repetition is key, it's easy to follow a routine because every day there are no surprises. Now, if that routine becomes out of order or something new gets added in, that's when people start to become panicked.

Some think of change like the ripple effect when you throw a pebble into the open water and continuous ripples start to form. Therefore, it is thought that if you change one part of your life, that means everything else will change as well, but this isn't entirely true.

Sometimes, the reason people are so scared of change is that they don't realize that is what they need most in life. People get so caught up in a daily routine or a bad situation that they start to think that it's the only way things should be.

It's OK to not feel in control sometimes.

It's OK to feel like things are different.

Without change, whether it's something small or something that is totally life changing, we would never learn to grow.

We need growth in order to become better people and make better decisions.

Recently, I have been trying to learn to love change and to understand why it is completely necessary.

Look at it like this: When you have the option to change something, why wouldn't you?

The last thing you should want is to be stuck in the same place, doing the same thing.

Take a moment, think about what you can change and do it.

I know I am only 21 years old, but it feels like there is already a lot changing around me, and I know there is much more to come.

After all, change is inevitable.

Cover Image Credit: Ali Lee

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.
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It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

Cover Image Credit: Sara Petty

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Lessons I've Learned Throughout College And Life

Learn to enjoy life
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Well, here we are. It is the end of another school year. Usually, I am jumping for joy, but this year it became a little more sentimental... I realized that I only have one more year before I graduate and have to become a "real adult." But I'll admit that this has been the toughest semester of my college career. I worked 3 jobs along with being a full-time student.

I know. I sound crazy. But I’m here to share some things with you about my college career. The things I have learned about myself over the past 3 years of college are that I rarely say no, I have FOMO, and I hate being alone. All of these things make me a huge extrovert. But it has been one of the most rewarding things for me in college.

Let me fill you in on some lessons I have learned about how to enjoy life to the fullest over the past 3 years.

1. Your GPA is not eternal.

Remember in high school when everyone freaked out about the ACT and how important it was to get a good score? We were obsessed with getting the highest score so we could look better than our friends. We were also told that was the only way to get scholarships and get into college. We were defined by that number.

But since being in college, I can't recall the last time someone asked me about my ACT score. Why? Because it doesn't matter anymore and it never defined who I was or how smart I was.

Similarly, it seems like we are defined by our GPA in college. But I dare you to ask any college graduate about when they last discussed their GPA. I guarantee they couldn't tell remember a time or probably even remember what it was. Why? Because again, it doesn’t define who you are. I’m not telling you to fail classes, but all A's doesn't make you better than someone else. Some B’s and C’s at the end of the day are not the end of the world and will not matter after college.

2. Build relationships and make connections.

Things that do matter after college are the people you meet, build relationships with and make connections with. The world tells us it’s about how much we know and how much money we have. But I believe that it’s who you know and not all about what you know. The people you surround yourself with are the ones who make you who you are.

My freshman year I was super involved in a campus ministry. I was placed in a bible study that changed my faith drastically. I absolutely loved my bible study leader. Although we kind of lost connection after school let out that year, the following summer we rekindled our friendship and she started mentoring me. Now, I can say she’s one of my best friends. I’m even in her wedding that is in 3 months (EEEEKKK).

My sophomore year, I decided to go through with recruitment. Let me just say that was a decision I’ll never regret. My sorority has pushed me to be a better version of myself, given me endless opportunities, and given me friends who I could not live without.

This year, I finally decided on my major and they repeatedly tell us that it is all about connections to get places in our field. I truly believe that because I would not have gotten my internship for this summer had it not been for the people I knew.

The people in my life are the reason I am who I am today. The people you meet in college will probably be the ones who you didn't even realize you needed. Find your tribe and love them hard.

3. The stress is not worth it.

Stress is the devil. Most days I just have to say, “not today stress, not today." No college kid needs to stress and have grey hair by the time they graduate. This is the time before we begin reality. This is the time we should enjoy life. I used to stress so much that I couldn’t sleep, but it isn’t worth it.

Don’t stress through college about your grades, money, or friendships. Go introduce yourself to your crush, go talk to the people at that table, go apply for that dream job, go eat ice cream with friends, go to that movie even though your paper is due in 3 days. Don’t let things that you won’t remember in 5 years ruin the memories that you will want to remember. Don’t stress so much you can’t enjoy life, because that will be your regret. (Trust me, been there done that).

Friend, listen to the girl who has walked ahead of you and learned some lessons. Enjoy this time in life. Learn from others, make lifelong friends, don’t stress over the little things, and make memories to last a lifetime. Life is too short. Enjoy every moment.

Cover Image Credit: Allison Blythe

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