It's Time You Learned To Give Yourself A Break, You Deserve It

It's Time You Learned To Give Yourself A Break, You Deserve It

Extending compassion to yourself should be a given, but it is often forgotten.

One thing I know many people, especially myself, have a difficult time with is being gracious with themselves. People say we are our own worst critics and I really think that is true. We hold ourselves to such high standards and beat ourselves up when we don't meet those standards. I find myself doing it on a regular basis.

I took a short psychology survey test that said that I am too quick to pass judgment on myself and often overanalyze situations to make them seem bigger than they are. Well, I could have told you that even before I took this little quiz. One thing the survey suggested was to focus on making solutions than focusing on the problems (especially the ones that you make up in your head.)

Of course, you won't be able to fix every problem at hand, but if you are actively seeking out solutions instead of more problems you may find that as a better and more positive way to push yourself, rather than putting yourself down for what you have failed to do.

So give yourself a break. You deserve it.

Take a walk, get some ice cream. When you nail that chemistry test you've been studying for weeks for, it is OK to take a break and not do much homework that night. You aren't going to help yourself if you just continue to wear yourself out.

Make a plan and know your limitations. Realizing you only have 24 hours in a day is important. As much as we would all like to get everything done in one day, that isn't always possible. I'm all for being optimistic towards accomplishing a lot in one day, but there is a fine line between that optimism being unreasonable. When you start crossing that line, that is when unnecessary stress can begin to crawl in.

There is a quote from the Serenity Prayer that has become very common over the years, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Knowing the difference in what you can and can't control is key for someone that is often too hard on themselves. My challenge for you (and myself) is to give yourself a break and work on building yourself up. You probably don't give yourself the credit you deserve. Look around at everything you have accomplished. You should be proud of yourself. Take it all in and use that as encouragement moving forward. Don't compare yourself to others, you are your own individual person with your own strengths and gifts. Use them.

Take a break, and then use that as a springboard going forward, forward into striving for the best while remembering to be compassionate to yourself.

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10 Bible Verses for Self Esteem

Sometimes you need to search for inner strength and find your own self worth.

We all get those days that we just don't feel good enough for anything. Everything is going wrong. For me, I go to the bible to read the words of God. His personal dialog for us is filled with encouragement, hope, and lessons we can learn from. Here are my top ten verses that are uplifting and impacting when at the lowest of lows:

1. Philippians 4:13:

I can do all things in Him who strengthens me.

2. Psalm 46:5

God is within her, she will not fall.

3. Proverbs 31:25

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

4. Psalm 28:76

The Lord is my strength and my shield.

5. 1 Corinthians 25:10

By the grace of God, I am what I am.

6. Romans 5:8

I loved you at your darkest.

7. Psalm 62:5-6

Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on Him. God alone is the mighty rock that keeps me safe, and he is the fortress where I feel secure.

8. 2 Timothy 1:7

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.

9. 1 Peter 2:9

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

10. 2 Chronicles 20:15

The battle is not ours, but God's.

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I Believe In Being Selfish

Yes, you read that right.


I believe in being selfish.

I believe in being selfish because, for years, I was not. I would drop anything anytime anyone asked me. I put others needs above my own. I constantly took away from my happiness in order to feed into other people's. At the time, I thought that was the right thing to do. I thought that's what good people did, but I was wrong. I simply got walked all over and let myself become less important and I realized that it was time to become selfish.

Now, I don't mean selfish as in "I don't care about other people" or "I don't have empathy for others." Because, believe me, that will never change. I will always have empathy. I will always care too much. But, I believe that I need to learn to be selfish and choose myself before I'm ever able to choose anybody ever again.

I believe in being selfish with who you spend your days with. I only have intentions of spending it with people who make me feel happy and free. People who make me belly laugh and forget to look at my phone. People who I know care about me just as much as I do them. People who would also drop anything for me.

I believe in being selfish with my time. I learned to say no to things that I really didn't want to do and I started to not concern myself with whether it hurt their feelings or not. I learned to spend my time doing things that made me happy and that I actually wanted to do, and that has made all the difference.

I learned that you can still care immensely about others and still be selfish, and I believe that this is the best way to be.

I believe in being selfish because I will never again put myself last.

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