Take The Leap

Take The Leap

It’s okay to decide you aren’t happy and make that change.

Making a plan for your life is never easy, and that’s putting it lightly. It’s hard, and it’s downright scary. Just yesterday it feels like you were in high school and you had so much time to figure out what you wanted to do with your life, who you wanted to be and where you wanted to go. How did we go from being so carefree to so panicked about the future?

Now you’re actually living your life, trying to make a plan for yourself and trying to map our how you want your future to be. It is one of the most confusing and stressful times of your life. When you graduate high school you think you have this solid plan and that nothing will change. You think you have your whole life figured out.

When I graduated, I had this great plan. Major in Marine Biology, move to a coastal town, get married a couple years out of college, and have kids before I turn 27. I can’t believe how much has changed. I’ve changed my major/career path about four times in less than two years, and I’m on the verge of changing it again. I don’t know where I want to move, I don’t know when I’m going to get married or have kids. I don’t know what my future looks like anymore.

But one of the most important things I’ve learned in this time is this: don’t be afraid to change your plan. The plan you made in high school is most likely not going to be the plan you have for yourself now, and the plan you have for yourself now is likely not going to be your plan in the future. And that’s okay.

It’s okay to change your plan. It’s okay to not 100% have your life set in stone. It’s okay to decide you aren’t happy and make that change. It’s okay.

I can’t imagine living the life I had planned for myself in high school. Changing my major for the first time terrified me, I was so sure I knew what I wanted to do. Was I really sure this wasn’t what I wanted anymore? Was I really sure I wanted to throw out this whole plan I had for myself and start from scratch?

To everyone who is going through the same thing - and I know there are a lot of you that are - take the leap. Do what makes you happy. Because 20 years from now when you look back on this time in your life, the last thing you want to wonder is “what if.” What if you made that change? What if you changed your major from what’s safe to what you’re passionate about? What if you transferred to the college of your dreams instead of staying put where you are? What if you took that leap?

Don’t just stay in your current career path or your current college or your current job just because it’s safe or because you’re afraid of change. Do what makes you happy. You only have one shot at this life, and there’s no use wasting it because you’re afraid to make that change.

Make the change, take the leap. Do what makes you happy, no matter what anyone else says. This is your life, don’t waste it by playing it safe.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

Cover Image Credit: Megan Beavers Photography

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Fall In Love With Failure In Order To Be Successful

Make failure your key to success.


The world is full of 'no's.' From your parents saying no to you not being able to go out with your friends, to getting denied from the college you really wanted to go to. The word 'No' is defined as 'the negative answer or decision; getting the opposite of what is specified' according to Google.

If any of you follow Gary Vaynerchuk (better known as Gary Vee, famous entrepreneur and motivational speaker) said once that you need to 'fall in love with failure.' Accepting failure and how you handle that failure, really determines your destiny. (It does sound cheesy, but it is very true).

So many people let failure defeat them. You might say that failure might not defeat you, but inside it still does. Failure is a daunting feeling that makes you feel less than who you are. Or that you do not have enough potential for something. But here is the thing…YOU DO HAVE THE POTENTIAL FOR SOMETHING.

I love failing. I know, it sounds crazy, but I like failing. Why? Because it helps me narrow down my options, and shows me what is meant to be, and what isn't. Failure is a sign from God saying, 'No, there is another way you can do this, you just haven't found it yet. Keep pushing forward'. I am a firm believer in 'if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and if it isn't, it isn't'. Failure is like your guide through life, helping you stay off the roads you aren't meant to go down. And when failure does come to you, you essentially find another way.

For example, when you apply for college, you apply to several schools. (Unlike me, only applying to one). So, when I got a response back from the college, they denied my application. I was devastated because I had painted this whole picture in my head of myself there, and that it was the 'only way' to be successful and get to where I want to be in life. Well, I let myself be sad for a solid five minutes, but then I branched out my options, knowing that it is okay and that God didn't want me to go there as well, thus why I got denied. Failure really pisses me off, but it fuels the fire/drive for success I have.

My message to you is take that failure, accept it, maybe laugh at it! You will find another way for success. Just keep working hard, exploring, and making a difference, and you will end up where you need to be, regardless of how you get there.

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