Be Kind, Because You Can't Rewind

Be Kind, Because You Can't Rewind

Kindness always counts.

A few years back I was having trouble with my contacts. I’ve had them since I was in the sixth grade—so if you wear contacts, then you know that I’ve also been struggling with them since the sixth grade, too. That day my eyes were probably puffy and watery and just all gross. So gross that the best cure would’ve been going home, crawling under my covers, and sheltering my eyes from the world or else apocalypse would occur. Alright, so that’s dramatic, but contacts give a whole new definition to “the struggle is real.”

Why this hideous-eye-day stands out to me is because someone actually noticed, but not because they were staring or screaming in fear or passing out from the hideousness. Because this person thought I was crying. She stopped me and asked if I was alright and if I needed to talk.

That is one of the kindest things that anyone—especially a stranger—has ever done for me. Something so simple as taking the time to stop in the sprint that is trying to get across campus in time for class, and then asking me if I was OK, has stuck with me. Maybe it’s stupid to say, but that moment made me want to be a better person. To do that for someone else.

I don’t know who she was, but whoever you are, thanks for that!

I’ve always believed in karma. That ignoring someone who looks like they need a moment of kindness or saying something mean or choosing to look the other way is wrong. It’s always felt like in doing so that the person who does that sort of thing will earn them a time when they need someone and look to find no one there. But the more that I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve come to realize that karma doesn’t really exist. Sometimes bad things just happen and there’s no one there. And if there’s no one there—maybe it is because of something you did or didn’t do. At that point, it’s not some fate reigning down on you; it’s your own choices. So long as you believe in free will, you can’t exactly believe that fate is making those choices for you—that karma is punishing you for making a choice, albeit wrong. Sometimes it’s just one you and you have to face that. You have to face that in the end, it’s kindness you want following you around, because the other stuff will make you into someone forgettable and just another person doing nothing. You don’t make a difference that way.

You don’t even have to reach out to people who look like they need a friend, because sometimes I’ve found that it’s the little things that help. Telling someone that you like their shoes or thanking a person for taking time to hold the door open can make a difference—bring a smile to a sad face or make a smile even bigger. One of my favorite things to do is to tell a sales or desk worker to have a nice day before they can tell me.

I think that in this life, it’s important to see that the world is bigger than you. Fate doesn’t have the time to punish you for not helping someone or being kind. That’s where you come in—where you hold the reigns to your own self-proclaimed fate. The key to making life a happy, fulfilled voyage is that you handle those reigns with kindness instead of fire.

So what have you done today? What will you do tomorrow? Hey, I like your shirt.

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What Your Hogwarts House Says About You

Get yourself sorted and find out where you belong in the world of witchcraft and wizardry.

Sorting at Hogwarts is a big deal. Being sorted into a house is essentially being placed into a family while you are away from home learning about witchcraft and wizardry. Your house is made up of the people you will live with, go to classes with, play Quidditch with and everything in between. You basically spend 24/7 with them. Your Hogwarts house is your home away from home.

When you get sorted into a house, it is based on your personality traits. The people in your house are typically like-minded people who display the same characteristics as you.

When you’re a first year at Hogwarts, the minute you set foot in the castle you are swept into the Great Hall to have the ancient Sorting Hat placed on your head. This Sorting Hat decides which “family” you’ll be spending your seven years with.

For some, it is very obvious which house they will be in, due to certain personality traits they possess. For others, they may exemplify traits that fit a multitude of houses and are uncertain where they may end up.

To find out where you belong, you can take the official "Harry Potter" Sorting Hat quiz at For all you muggles out there, these are the characteristics that the houses possess and what your house says about you:

Gryffindor: The house of the brave, loyal, courageous, adventurous, daring and chivalrous. Those who stand up for others are typically Gryffindors. Brave-hearted is the most well-known Gryffindor characteristic, and Gryffindors are also known for having a lot of nerve.

Gryffindors are people who hold a multitude of qualities alongside the ones listed, making them a very well-rounded house. People who are Gryffindors are often people who could fit nicely into another house but choose to tell the sorting hat they want Gryffindor (there's that bravery). "Do what is right" is the motto Gryffindors go by.

Being a Gryffindor means that you're probably the adventurous and courageous friend, and you are usually known for doing what is right.

Ravenclaw: The house is known for their wisdom, intelligence, creativity, cleverness and knowledge. Those who value brains over brawn can be found here. Ravenclaws often tend to be quite quirky as well. "Do what is wise" is the motto they strive to follow.

Though Ravenclaws can be know-it-alls sometimes, they most likely do know what the wisest decision is.

If you are known for being the quirky friend, the smartest in the group or just great at making wise decisions, you're definitely a Ravenclaw.

Hufflepuff: This house values hard work, dedication, fair play, patience, and loyalty. Hufflepuff’s are known for being just and true. "Do what is nice" is their motto.

Hufflepuff is known as the “nice house” and believes strongly in sparing peoples feelings and being kind. This is not to say that Hufflepuffs aren't smart or courageous. Hufflepuffs just enjoy making others happy and tend to be more patient towards people.

If you ever find that you are too nice for your own good and cannot bear to hurt someone’s feelings, congratulations, you are a Hufflepuff.

Slytherin: This is the house of the cunning, prideful, resourceful, ambitious, intelligent, and determined. Slytherin's love to be in charge and crave leadership. "Do what is necessary" is the motto of this house.

Slytherin is a fairly well-rounded house, similar to the other houses. They are loyal to those that are loyal to them just as Gryffindors are and are intelligent as Ravenclaws.

Slytherin house as a whole is not evil, despite how many dark wizards come out of this house. That is merely based on the choices of those wizards (so if your friend is a Slytherin, don’t judge, it doesn’t mean they are mean people). Slytherins do, however, have a tendency to be arrogant or prideful. This is most likely due to the fact that everyone in Slytherin is exceedingly proud to be there.

What Hogwarts house you’re in says a lot about the person you are, the traits you possess and how you may act in some situations. But in the end, your house is really just your home that is always there for you. Always.

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