Ask any executive member of a fraternity what the most dangerous thing on campus is, and you will get a fairly uniform response. It’s not drugs, alcohol, or fire arms; it’s a person, a very specific type of person too. The party girl, while usually being both fun and endearing, is hands down the most dangerous person you will meet at a college campus. One single girl can shut down a house that has stood on campus for decades. With that being said, here are the warning signs that a semester of social probation may have just walked in through the back gate.
She looks too young
No matter how good security is or what sort of ID checking policy you have, underage girls will find a way to infiltrate your house. Usually, they are seniors in high school on a college visit or are dating a freshman, either way they are a danger. More than likely, it is their first time to be on the college social scene, and to use some pop culture slang, she thirsty. I would like to further define thirsty in this instance as having two goals, track down alcohol like a bloodhound and hook up with guys previously unavailable. I don’t feel that I have to explain the plethora of crises that this girl can cause, so politely find out how old she is and ask her to leave.
She is a climber
As weird as it sound, a climber is a real thing and a real problem. I don’t know the psychology behind their actions, but some girls like to get rowdy and climb things. “Things” being: chairs, tables, couches, Greek columns, or the sides of your house. There is a place for this girl, and it's the rock wall at the gym, not the roof of your house. When girls climb things they fall, almost always they fall. Then you have to call an ambulance and meet with the dean of students. So once a girl starts climbing things, it’s time for her to leave.
She has a reputation
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If a girl has a flare for pulling fire alarms or stealing things, don’t let her into your party. Even when she walks up to the gate with her friend that’s a total smoke-show, she still doesn’t come in. You may get to dance with the friend, but while your eyes are on her, the problem girl is somewhere else pulling a fire alarm or calling the cops.
She is Belligerent
Basically the same principal as the last point, she may be hot, but it’s not worth it. You can tell when a girl is too drunk to come into your party, and nothing good comes of her getting inside. Best thing that can happen here is that she just annoys anyone and everyone until she gets attention. However, it can be much worse, if she is very attractive, someone will give her all the attention she desires. This is how rape happens, and it’s not cool. She may be totally into you Saturday night, but Sunday morning she could have very different feelings. The rule is: if she is drunk, she can’t give consent. We all remember Duke Lacrosse; don’t let it happen at your house.
She’s a Dude
Ok disclaimer, she isn’t actually a dude; She's probably a nice lady. She just brings random guys in with her. It may be a brother, a boyfriend, or a cousin, but it’s still a guy you don’t know that nobody in your house can vouch for. Once he is in your party, he represents your organization to an extent. If he acts like a fool or mistreats female guests, it looks bad on your house as a whole not just him. He could be a member of a rival house, and nothing complements a party like having to kick a guy out and getting in a fist fight. So remember, she may be a nice girl, but you are actually letting a strange guy in your house.
Chances are you’ve seen these people come into your parties; you may even be one of the aforementioned girls or guys. The important thing to remember here is that while fraternity parties are fun, they are not a free concert. They are private events at someone’s house. So if you are a guest, be respectful, have a great time and don’t cause problems…. Please don’t cause problems.
