Am I Really Just Wifey Material?
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Am I Really Just Wifey Material?

"You're the kind of girl I wanna settle down with"

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Am I Really Just Wifey Material?

I feel like since the beginning of time guys have always put girls into two groups, those that "want to have fun" and those that they want to "wife up". As a female, and being constantly subjected to fit in either group, I am here to say that it is such BS.

In every relationship that I have ever been in as a young adult, the main reasons that most of them have ended have been because I was the right girl but at the wrong time. And trust me there is nothing more painful than that.

From being deemed "wifey material" I have come to the conclusion that it is quite possibly the worst thing ever. At first, when you think about it, it seems almost sweet, that when guys want to be with you it is because they want to be with you forever. And trust me I get the appeal of that I feel like every hopeless romantic does.

When past boyfriends have said that to me it has made me feel really good about myself because it feels as if they are putting you on the ultimate pedestal as their "end game".

But as relationships began to pile up and the excuses all pretty much were the same as to why we didn't work out, I began to hate that I had to wait for all of these guys to figure themselves out to be with me.

I don't know if this sounds bratty, or I seem extremely narcissistic, but constantly hearing that you're the right person but their just not "there yet" just really gets on my nerves. It's like saying, "I really like you and you're doing everything right, but sorry I just can't be with you right now", the frustration is truly endless.

Also as being a girl that guys usually want to settle down with, I constantly feel like they would just be settling for me. It's like they all just want to go out have fun and do whatever they want and then they'll finally give me the time of day. It makes me feel so sad because it is basically saying I really want to live up my life until I HAVE to get married.

I guess my main point of all of this is, why can't all girls fit into both groups? Why does there have to be this huge divide that makes girls feel like they have to either be the "fun" girl or be the girl that guys want to take home to their mothers?

I wasn't raised to be a wife so I don't like how I am constantly assumed like I was. I was raised and taught to be with a guy that is going to respect me and whatever I want to do with my life, and quite frankly repeatedly being told to put my life on hold so a guy can figure out their business is certainly getting old.

I think that we should stop looking at the term "wifey material" as some sort of compliment because I can tell you first hand we are all worth way more than that.

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