I Joined A Sorority, And Thank God

I Joined A Sorority, And Thank God

Recruitment was stressful, but I couldn’t ask for anything more.

First semester of freshman year is undoubtedly stressful. I looked to my friends at southern schools who went through sorority recruitment in the fall and were able to jump right into the social scene, and everything else that came with going Greek. I will admit that I was jealous and felt like I was really missing out. I was dying to rush and meet a gazillion new friends.

Of course, upon actually jumping into the recruitment process, I questioned why I had ever thought that at all. Why is being judged on your appearance all day, every day, for five days fun? Why is this so glorified? Why am I putting myself through this on purpose? Many of my friends decided to drop out of the recruitment process halfway through because they decided that it wasn't for them, and I had to wonder the same thing about myself.

I received a bid from the Villanova Zeta Alpha chapter of Delta Gamma on Bid Day, and I was beyond thrilled, but also beyond scared. I was in, but was I really? I didn’t actually have friends yet. I had “sisters,” most of whom I had never met in my life. What if everyone was fake during recruitment? What if this isn’t what I thought it was going to be? My mind ran a thousand miles a minute, and thank God I slammed on the brakes. Something about this felt very, very right. Stopping my mind from running through the possibilities of how this could turn out horribly forced me to focus on what about this could be amazing.

Over the next few weeks, as a new member, I was thrust into meetings. Business-like and informational meetings, yes, but also meetings such as Meet the Seniors, Meet the Juniors, Meet the Sophomores, Meet Your Pledge Class, and so on! I attended event after event after event and it didn’t feel like a chore- instead I felt energized and excited and happy almost all the time. I thought, I can really do this!

Of course, now the New Member Period is slowing down, but I still feel the same way that I did on Bid Day. Everyone in my pledge class is so incredibly friendly and fun—they’re the type of people who I really want to spend the next three and a half years with at school. I feel so blessed to have a Big whom I LOVE and a huge group of girls as a support system.

So yeah, I joined a sorority, and I guess there’s some preconceived notions about who I am or who I could become. But honestly, if I’m any different, it’s for the better. I’m better, happier, more social, more comfortable, more outgoing, more of everything good in my life.

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Joining A Sorority Has Made Me Into A Better Leader

Being a leader within my sorority has taught me valuable lessons that I wouldn't have learned elsewhere.

When I came to college I saw Greek life broadcasted everywhere I went, whether it be flyers at booths for formal recruitment, sorority letters plastered on the pavement in chalk or on every inch of social media. Growing up I didn’t have a ton of girlfriends and then as I got older my group of friends became small, so I didn’t believe that a sorority would be a good fit for me. But I was enticed by the idea of lifelong friends and strong bonds of sisterhood. As an overwhelmed freshman, I wasn’t sure if I would be ready for the time commitment of Greek life along with my class schedule.

Despite that, I still considered going through formal recruitment and signed up for it my sophomore year. I thought that it would be better to try it and see if I enjoyed it, instead of always wondering what it would be like. Plus, I knew that if I decided that I wasn’t interested anymore that I would be able to drop.

After going through recruitment and joining a sorority I still wasn’t sure if I was going to like it. I tended to keep to myself and only stayed with my little group of friends.

Over time, I started to branch out and I realized that I found the most empowering and caring women, and they are what I needed in my life.

I decided to get more involved in my sorority by taking on a leadership role and through that experience, I interacted with even more of the brilliant women in my chapter. I was very excited about connecting with women in my chapter, but I wanted to branch out even further in the Greek community.

I applied for an even larger leadership position and now I have the opportunity to make a huge difference in my chapter and with other chapters on campus too. I have always wanted to make a change for the better and now I am able to do that, just from getting involved in my sorority and taking on leadership roles.

Although I was hesitant about joining a sorority at first, I quickly realized that I had the chance to learn about becoming a better leader from having my own leadership roles and from my sister’s leadership experiences as well. From the roles that I have taken on, I have learned valuable lessons about time management, work ethic, and communication.

But the most important lesson I learned is to be understanding of others and what they are going through. By joining my sorority, I have been able to grow as a leader and a person and I am grateful for the opportunities to do so.

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To My Big, I Forgot To Tell You

I love you!!

Dear Biggie,

Hey dork.

I never really said anything like this, but thank you for always being there for me. I have never had someone that really saw so much potential in a friendship with me, and I want to thank you for that. Not many people understand how important the Big/Little relationship is when you choose to enter a sisterhood, but you made it so much more than a couple gifts and pictures.

I made a new friend, and a lifelong sister. The best part of how we met is the fact that you took a chance. Maybe we didn't know each other too well, but in choosing my sorority, I shared a common value with you that resulted in us being brought together.

And in the short time that we have been together, I am so glad to call you one of my closest friends! Thank you for always being the biggest (Ha get it, cause you're my Big) supporter in everything I do. I will always have your back and be your shoulder to lean on when things get tough. I am forever grateful to have you in my life to guide me through these next 4 years. Thank you for the endless inside jokes, laughs, cries, and everything in between. I can't wait for what is yet to come and to be as amazing of a Big as you are, to my own Little some day.

I love you!!!

-Your Little

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