We've all played the infamous game of "20 Questions" at least once in our life. Now, whether that was just because you were bored or were trying to get flirty on Kik, that's a different story. The point of the game was to get to know the basic information about someone, such as their favorite colors and whatnot. It worked—usually by the end of the game, you knew their favorite colors, biggest fears, pet's name, and even where they grew up. However, it's begun to seem as though we've relied too much on short answer questions to where we only know the surface level of people. It's time to kick that to the curb and dive deeper.

There is so much to a person that often gets left undiscovered. They put their walls up, hide away, and only let you see what they feel comfortable seeing. Or maybe that's you, and it's understandable. Maybe you were hurt, maybe you were the one that hurt someone else. I'm not saying spill all of your soul to everyone you meet, but you should have friends where you feel comfortable disclosing any information with them, fully trusting them to know what's beneath the front you put off to the public. We have become a generation that is more concerned with only trusting themselves and shutting the rest off from the world.

It's about more than just breaking the ice. Get fully submerged.

Find out what makes them tick. Ask them about their family. Discover their biggest fears, goals for life, most scarring memories, mental state, secrets they've never told anyone. Let them do the same to you. It's terrifying, it's raw, but it's you. It's the real you that you that you've hidden away for so long that they seem like a stranger.

By opening up yourself to others, you begin to discover yourself more. You reflect on your actions and what causes you to do the things you do. You explore and realize the motivations behind your thoughts, your subconscious ticks, what really matters the most to you. Not only is the person you're talking to getting to know you on an entirely different level, you are also rediscovering that level yourself.

While "20 Questions" is a good way to break the ice, we need to stop relying on it to fully develop an entire friendship at the end of the game, because that doesn't happen. You can't reach a true, deep connection when the conversation is just "My favorite color is blue. Do you like dogs or cats more?" We've too heavily relied on surface-level communication that it has inhibited how open we are with others and ourselves. Don't let Twitter fool you—it's not cool to have a hard, secretive exterior that fronts away all of what makes you who you are. It's time to dive deeper.