It's Time To Focus On Those Who Make You A Better Person

It's Time To Focus On Those Who Make You A Better Person


My freshman year of high school, my all-time favorite teacher put a handwritten note on my desk that read, Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. That is one of the most relevant pieces of advice that I have received thus far, considering that college is far from the 'judgment-free zone' that we make it out to be.

In case you haven't figured this out by now, not everyone is going to like you. Unfortunately, some people will not be able to see past your flaws to realize how great of a person you actually are. That is one of the many harsh realities of life, but you know what? It doesn't even matter, because you do not need validation from every person you have ever encountered that you are, in fact, worth it.

It can be difficult to want to open up to and trust people after realizing that some people will just never get you. You'd think that since we all grow up with different life stories that we'd be more open-minded, right? No. If people do not like something about you, then they may think it's OK to degrade you for whatever those things may be. Just for the record, those who are worth your time will not sit around and attempt to make you feel worthless.

It's not easy to get up and put yourself out there in a world populated with picky, judgmental people who cannot accept you for you. As crazy as this may sound, there are plenty of people out there who would appreciate your sense of humor, your taste in music, your affinity for certain things, your contagious smile. You just have to look around you, and as difficult as it may be, do not let go of these people once you find them. It is not fair to you, or them, because they are sticking around for a reason. As for why you would even want to let go in the first place? It can be misleading when you finally find people who appreciate you, because how do you know that they are not playing with your head? Trust me, if someone wants nothing to do with you, they will treat you accordingly. Cut out those who contribute overwhelming negativity to your life, and focus on those who make you a better person. You will thank yourself later.

Surround yourself with people who bring out your best smile; do not accept anything else, sunshine. XO

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A Love Letter To The Girl Who Cares Too Much About Everyone But Herself

You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.


Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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Finally Getting Into A Gym Routine In College Has Helped My Body And Mind

Being active in college is extremely important for both your physical and mental health.


In high school, I played volleyball in the fall and ran track in the spring, meaning that for the most part, I was pretty active and worked out almost every day. However, ever since I graduated and came to college, I've been slacking on staying active. Throughout my whole freshman year of college, I told myself every day that I would start going to the gym again. Surprise — that never happened. This became a habit for the rest of my freshman year and into the summer. Although it was something I thought about doing a lot, I always made excuses that would prohibit me from going to work out. Whether I had work, an exam the next day, or would rather hangout with my friends, there was always a reason as to why I didn't have time to go to the gym. In the back of my mind, I know it was just me being lazy, which I recognize is an issue that many college students have.

This year, as a sophomore who has settled into a routine and become more comfortable with the lifestyle of college, I have found that in reality, I do have time to go to the gym at least a couple times a week. Just recently, I've gotten into the routine of working out three times per week, and I've noticed a huge difference not just physically, but mentally as well. I'm not someone who focuses on losing weight but on building muscle and simply having a healthy body and mind in general.

After getting back into working out, I feel stronger and observe that I have more endurance — even if I'm performing a simple activity like walking up three flights of stairs for class. I've noticed that my muscles already look more toned as well. Other than the obvious physical differences in my body, there have been a lot of positive effects on my mental being too. I've noticed that I get to bed at a more reasonable time and get better sleep after working out during the day. I'm also much more productive during the day when it comes to finishing homework and maintaining a set schedule. These are all things that have been proven to happen when you exercise.

According to Heathline, exercising even just for small amounts of time during the week is proven to make you feel happier, improve your mood, help with getting a good night's sleep, benefit your muscles and bones, increase energy levels and productivity, help your brain health and cognitive functions, and reduce the risk of illness and disease. These are just some of the proven benefits of maintaining an exercise routine, and I've definitely noticed a lot of them in my own life. The best part about it is that you can do whatever sort of exercise you're comfortable with. Whether it's going on a run outside, lifting weights at the gym or doing less intense exercises in your room, all physical activity will have a positive effect on your body and mind as a whole.

Even though it can be a little intimidating walking into a gym filled with muscle-y guys and experienced fitness people, working out can help to boost your confidence in so many different ways. After being so active during high school, it's something that I have come to enjoy very much and almost crave on the days I don't go to the gym. I've found that it's a very important part of striving to be the healthiest, best version of myself in college. Getting into the routine of going to the gym can take some work, but I hope this can motivate those of you who have the thought in their head. You can do it!

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