It's Okay To Walk Away

It's Okay To Walk Away

It's important to know when to put yourself first

When I fell in love for the first time, I thought that that was it. I thought I had lucked out and found the one right away. For a long time, everything seemed perfect, until some friends pointed out that I wasn't being treated the way I deserved. I clung onto the idea that that was what love was, it was struggling for the bigger picture.

Suddenly, one day, he decided we should "just be friends". Just like that, I was left in the dark. After screaming and crying and fighting to get back what I thought was a huge loss, I finally understood that it wasn't love. Someone who loves you should not make you question your worth on a day to day basis or worry that every action you make could tip him over the edge.

I decided it was time to walk away.

I thought that the childhood friend I had grown so close to through all the years would be a friend for life. I was always the pushover friend that would never fight back for long, simply because of how much I valued the relationship. Knowing that, she took advantage of my tendencies to be a push over and would often see how far I could be pushed. It wasn't until I was sitting up at 3:30 am one autumn night begging my best friend to stay after she had friend dumped me that I realized that she was not worth my efforts.

I deleted my reply and went to sleep. It took a few days for her to realize that I was serious and she tried to bring me back, but I knew I couldn't get sucked back in. I had already walked away.

My first roommate was the closest thing that I had to a sister at that point in my life. Meeting by chance on a Facebook group for incoming freshmen, we quickly hit it off and requested each other on the housing hub. We did everything together for the first year and decided to live together again the next year.

It wasn't until the fall started up again that I noticed a big change in her. She no longer had the adventurous gleam in her eye when I invited her out to do things, or the smile on her face when I would send her funny things I found online. She preferred to stay inside and talk with her new love, one that went to school hours away. When I voiced my concern about how frequently he was visiting and how sad I was that we never hung out anymore, I received nothing in return but silence. Silence, followed by notes, followed by screaming, more silence, more notes, down to texts, down to one piece of paper. The last letter I received from her was what made me pack all my things after she had stormed off for the weekend and leave for good. I couldn't stand the thought of just sitting around for her to come back so that the silence could start up again.

The hardest things to walk away from are the ones that will lead you into the unknown.

If I had stuck around for any of these, been the pushover I was, and just let things happen, I would never have thought to be where I am today.

IT'S OKAY TO LEAVE. A sad event, a job you don't like, if your major isn't what you want any more, any unhappy relationship (friend, significant other, roommate, etc.) or uncomfortable situation is okay to walk away from or leave in the past.

Take care of yourself, and the rest will follow.

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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2. Tea Tree

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