Since I was a little girl, I was told that people meet their significant other in college and that they live the happily ever love story. A lot has changed culture wise since I was that little girl. Now phrases such as "Netflix & Chill" and "Slide into the DMs" are the key terms when it comes to present day romance. In a culture where hookups are more prominent than actual relationships, is it okay to want more?

The answer is yes. It is okay to want more than hookups or the late night what are you doing text from the cute guy down the hall. You shouldn't feel guilty wanting to have the cookie cutter relationship with someone that you love with every bone in your body. You should be able to have the relationship where he opens your door, brings you chicken noodle soup when you are sick, where there isn't a side chick involved, and where you guys can grow together learning more about each other. Yes, obtaining this kind of relationship with someone in the present day hookup culture can be difficult, but that doesn't mean that you have to settle for the first guy that compliments your eyes hoping that he can change. It's okay to wait until you find the one that you can't live without.

It's also okay to want more when you are in a relationship. You shouldn't have to stay in a relationship where you are constantly belittled and abused. It's okay to want more in a relationship because you don't deserve to be hurt because that's not what the basis of a healthy relationship is. It's okay to want more in a relationship so that it's only a one-way relationship. A healthy relationship needs proper communication and both sides trying to make it work to work. It's okay to want more because if you are staying in a relationship ship where you are unhappy nothing positive is coming from the situation. Why stay in a relationship where you are unhappy when you can be with the person that makes you need to catch your breath every time you see them? It's okay to want more because you deserve more.

I'm a strong believer that you date someone for the end goal to be marriage. It's okay to want more because you want to be happy in that long term relationship. Marriage is having someone there to sing karaoke with you at one in the morning, to bring you breakfast in bed when you're sick and to love you unconditionally. It's okay to want more because you need to have what you need to make you happy and your future/current relationship strong. It's okay to want more because you are strong and don't deserve to be in an abusive relationship. It's okay to want more because it is your life, and you are allowed to have a say in what you want to make you the person that you want to be.