It’s okay to not want people in your life. Whether it be a former friend, one of your parents, a neighbor, or even the bagger at your local grocery store. You have no obligations to them. Blood ties, the amount of time you have known them, and things they have done for you in the past in no way tie you to those people.

Looking after yourself and putting your mental and physical health first is a priority, and no one should be able to effect that.

It’s okay to not want to let people back into your life. As Stephen Chbosky said in "The Perks of Being a Wallflower,"“Things change, friends leave. And life doesn't stop for anybody.”

It’s true. Life has this annoying habit of never staying quite the way we want it to or do what we want. Things do change, sometimes for good and sometimes for bad. When these things change and you let people go, sometimes others will let them back in. For them, that might be what they need. They learned from the event, grew as people, and accepted the issues.

You may have done all those things as well, but you are in no way required to let that person back into your life. Sometimes the healthier decision in the harder one. The one that makes you look like a bitch to your friends, or stuck up to others. If it is right for you, that is all that matters.

It’s also okay to let people back in when you need to. Sometimes all you need is a little time and perspective. As long as it is a decision that you thought through completely and it puts you in no danger, it’s your prerogative. You have the right to take people back in, no matter what others may think of you. For some keeping those who hurt them at an arm's distance is the safest option, while others go at it with open arms.

It’s also okay not to know what do.

Parents who do drugs. Friends who lie and manipulate. Those who steal, lie, beg, cheat, and more. Each case is different, just as everyone's reactions are. Sometimes you just cannot know. Should I trust her again? Is it okay to let him back into my life? If this the right idea? What is it happens all over again? Being confused is okay, being confused is normal. We’re all human. Day by day we work to figure things out. Some days we are wrong, and some days we are spectacularly right. We just have to remember to do the best we can.

Life is messy, beautiful and chaotic.

Some days we can let people in, and others we push them out the door before they even reach it. That’s okay though. Life is about making decisions and learning from them, whether or not they line up with what others would want or expect.