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It's OK To Say No

Say it with me.

Ghada Abouhaidar
May 17, 2016
University of Alabama Birmingham
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We all know that saying about how you shouldn't cross oceans for someone who wouldn't cross a puddle for you (something like that). Anyways, what it's saying is that some people are self centered jerks and won't do squat for you, and maybe you should stop being such an awesome, loving, giving person back.

The hardest part of these situations is being able to recognize those people. There are certain people you will meet in life who truly need and flourish with assistance, and helping them is absolutely the right path of action. Helping others is just the decent thing to do, but there is a point where you need to evaluate if you are spreading yourself too thin and if you are just being used. If you ever feel bogged down because you are always helping others and never have time for yourself, your schoolwork, your physical and mental health, and to just enjoy the things in life you love (like Netflix), let me teach you one magic word: no.

We're gonna go through some prime examples:

Human: "Get up and help me clean my room."

You: "No."

The person above had no real reason to want their room clean and was under no time constraint. You have important things to do in a timely manner. You are not savage for saying no.

Human #2: "Will you help me clean my room? I have a paper due at midnight and can't concentrate in this mess. You would really be helping me out."

You: "Yes."

Worthy cause, nice ask; you will enjoy helping them because you know they will really benefit. This seems like a genuine person.

We're gonna slip in some examples where you will have to dig a little deeper to identify your approach to the situation:

Human #3: "Could I borrow your old accounting book this semester? I'm really short on money."

You: "Sure thing, I have no use for it."

Human #4: "Can you bring me your old accounting book for me to borrow? I'll be at the bars tonight so you can just bring it there. I'm short on cash this semester."

You: "How do you afford to get into the bars?"

Long story short, it's ok to put yourself first and say no!




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