It's that time of year again; cuddle season. The season where every person who is single searches for a boyfriend/girlfriend to curl up with under the blankets, watch scary movies, and feel a lot less lonely. It's the time of year when people who aren't in relationships watch those who are in relationships with envy in their eyes.
Well, I am happy to say that I am not one of these people.
I am a 21-year old single and, most importantly, happy girl.
Yes, that's right. I said it; I am happy that I am single.
In a world where the pressure to be in a relationship is so high, being single is often thought of as a negative thing. Well, not to me. Being single does not mean I am lonely or sad. Being single means I am taking the time to learn how to love myself before I pass my love on to someone else.
When most people in relationships think of their single friends, they feel bad for them. I question their pity. Being single is not something to feel bad about. Being single gives me the freedom to pick up and do as I please, without having to consider someone else's interests or opinions. This is a time in my life where I am allowed to be selfish so I can figure myself out.
This is the time in my life where I can figure out how to deal with my flaws. A time where I can focus on school and my career without having to worry about whether or not I am making the right choices for two people, instead of just one. This is the time in my life where I can grow from my mistakes and learn how to handle things on my own. This is the time in my life where I can finally say I did things for myselfand no one else.
This is in no way intended to speak negatively about those who are in relationships. Relationships are beautiful things and I am more than happy for those who are in one. This is to speak for those who deal with people questioning why they are single. People who ask if they are tired of being single. People who don't understand that being alone is not a bad thing.
To my fellow singles, remember that it's more than OK to be alone. Take things slow, focus on yourself and don't jump into a relationship because others want you to. Form a relationship when you are ready and when you feel like you have focused on yourself.