Surprise, It's OK To Date The Bad Boy

Surprise, It's OK To Date The Bad Boy

And it's entirely possible to do it responsibly, too!
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So maybe “date” is the wrong word to use in this instance, but although the two of us know better, friends and what not will say he is my boyfriend, and so we will just go with that label.

Ironically, that is the issue with the situation in itself. Let’s start from the beginning.

Earlier this year a friend of mine, who is known to be a "grade-A bad boy" by all stereotypical standards, and myself became closer and closer acquainted. It had become so close, in fact, to the point that the two of us have been on numerous dates in the past couple weeks. Dates like the movies, the mall, even simply store hopping at one point when we had nothing better to do. From the way it goes, it would never be guessed we met due to a sleazy remark made on my part to my friend, who I just wanted to make cringe.

There is hand holding, and little innocent moments, and a few remarks here and there like any legitimate relationship.

The dates are actually some of the more fun outings I've been on, and most comfortable honest.

However, when I mention these dates to a couple of my friends, they look at me as if I do not know what I am doing. They say it is only a waste of time because I do not know if a future is possible with him, despite myself being much too young to even consider a "future" with anyone I am dating. Simply put, the conversation usually ends up with her or him claiming that I am only going to get myself hurt in the process, and what happiness I use to have with the situation is drained- at least temporarily. I don't think she understood, necessarily, that i went into this fully expecting what could happen and expecting the worse- or rather, maybe she did understand and simply did not care because he was still a bad decision.

The point of the story is to say this.

If you are a girl in the dating scene, and a classified bad boy (or self proclaimed "douchebag" like my own "date"), there is no shame in having a good time with him. Hell, it's okay to date whoever you want, if it does make you happy.

It took me awhile to come to the conclusion with this because it is unconventional to date someone who I can not see a future with. I use to pride myself on not dating unless I see the person I am with as a potential partner, however I realized that logic only came because I had never seen someone show interest in me other than a friend.

That might sound pathetic, but it was true, and I do not have shame in that.

Dating the class a bad boy of the world can be fun so long as no one is getting hurt, which is the problem my friends seem to worry about.When he showed interest in me, it was spur of the moment and I was all too well prepared for this trait in him. I had prepared myself for the worst and went in head first. No, I can not see a future with him yet, but that does not mean I can not have fun with him.

Girls can date the bad boy of their class and get out unscathed if they are prepared for that personality and willing to take it on responsibly. So long as the girl in the situation is willing to not hold rose tinted glasses throughout the outings and note when too much is too much, a little fun does not hurt, especially if there are no other options at the time (because, let's be honest- who has options twenty four/seven?)

I believe there is a superiority complex in those, or a majority of those, who date with the soul intention of marrying, but if we are to be honest, a the age of sixteen to twenty, or maybe a little later, unless you have already met your sweetheart, it might be awhile before marriage is even in the blind spots. And if you do so happen to meet the love of your life, relationships are nowhere near permanent, and that fun little fling is completely open to be broken off.

The point here is, when it comes to dating, people have different schedules in their life. If someone wants to be with maybe the lesser expected choice, and be with them responsibly, then there is no problem with it. It is entirely possible to be seeing someone who might not necessarily be "good for them" as long as they know what to expect in the end.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.
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The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:


“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:

“FISH STICK! I NAMED HIM FISH STICK BECAUSE HE'S A FISH STICK, OF COURSE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 59)

When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:


"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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7 Things To Remember When You're Sad About Being Single

I don't need a significant other, I have my significant self.

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1. You save money 

Less shopping for you on Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. SAVE THAT MONEY, HONEY!

2. You can flirt with whoever you want...

...for the most part, at least. Definitely not if they already have a significant other. But now, you don't have to feel guilty for having googly eyes for someone else!

3. You can completely unplug whenever 

You don't have to worry about constantly keeping tabs on someone. No more answering to someone's every call. You can go completely tech-free whenever!

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5. You are saying goodbye to heartbreak 

No one can breakup with you if you're single, #facts.

6. Everything you do is for yourself 

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