It's Not That Black And White These Days

It's Not That Black And White These Days

Cheers to the gray area.
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When asked if he liked a girl, my friend’s response was, “it’s not that black and white these days, is it?” I was surprised, yet somewhat intrigued and pleased at his answer. Prior to this conversation, I’d only ever seen it two ways: yes or no. You either like someone or you don’t. Put in the effort or walk away. So his question really got me thinking.

It made me realize that I’ve been wrong this entire time. Sure, for some it may be as easy as a yes or no, but in the age of dating apps and the hookup culture, it’s really not as simple as it used to be. Now, there’s this gray space that’s confusing and stressing us and making our lives so much more difficult. Within that space lies so many variables and questions.

Maybe you like spending time with someone, and you know you’re definitely more than just friends, but does that necessarily mean that you like him or her? I’d argue no. In my eyes, enjoying your time with someone is solely about enjoying their company and interests, and maybe even their personality. However, liking someone is about wanting to get to know the person on a deeper level and appreciating who they are as an individual. While the former can surely lead to the latter, it’s intrigue and curiosity that are driving factors of liking someone, and those are what I believe mark the true difference between the two.

I’m not quite sure what my intent is in writing this article. I suppose this is more food for thought and my take on the matter rather than anything else. You might agree or disagree, and that’s fine. Again, it’s just my opinion, so don’t take it too personally or seriously.

I know I’m not the only one that’s been confused before by someone else’s signals and intentions. But prior to having that conversation with my friend, it never really hit me that I’ve been living in this gray area for some time now. Honestly, I think I’m okay with being in the middle… for now. Until you find that one person that continues to peak your interest and draw your attention, live in the gray area! There’s nothing wrong with it. In fact, sometimes it’s just what we need.

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In case you haven't noticed lately, girls are all about that dad bod.

Girls have been dealing with body image issues since the beginning of time until recent (for those of you who consider yourselves to be "Thick thin") I hadn't heard about this body type until my roommate mentioned it. She used to be crazy over guys she claimed had the dad bod.

After observing the guys she found attractive, I came to understand this body type well and was able to identify it. The dad bod is a nice balance between a beer gut and working out. The dad bod says, "I go to the gym occasionally, but I also drink heavily on the weekends and enjoy eating eight slices of pizza at a time." It's not an overweight guy, but it isn't one with washboard abs, either.

The dad bod is a new trend and fraternity boys everywhere seem to be rejoicing. Turns out skipping the gym for a few brews last Thursday after class turned out to be in their favor. While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive. Here are a few reasons that girls are crazy about the dad bod.

It doesn't intimidate us.
Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don't want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

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We like being the pretty one.
We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.

Better cuddling.
No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.

Good eats.
The dad bod says he doesn't meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down. He's not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything.

You know what you're getting.
Girls tend to picture their future together with their guys early on. Therefore, if he already has the dad bod going on, we can get used to it before we date him, marry him, have three kids. We know what we are getting into when he's got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he's going to have at 45.


So there you go. A simple break down of why girls everywhere are going nuts over this body type on males. We like it. We love it. We want some more of it. So here's to you dad bods, keep it up. Men, confidently strut that gut on the beach because while you stare at us in our bikinis we will be staring just as hard.

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After the honeymoon phase, relationships can start to get real. Suddenly you two are up in the wee hours of the night going to town.... on an extra-large pizza, and feeling no shame in having pizza grease smeared across your face. It's during these times that you realize they really are your best friend.

1. Gifts start becoming more practical

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This doesn't mean you have to stop giving the mushy gifts, but after a certain point, you start thinking about more sensible gifts that you know they really needs.

2. You can practically read each other's minds

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A look can mean a million different things, but when they're your bestie, they know exactly what you're thinking.

3. Things like morning breath are much smaller issues

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You start getting much more comfortable with them, and that means there is less of a rush to get to the bathroom and freshen up because you are confident that they don't really mind. Although, that shouldn't stop you from brushing your teeth.

4. You don't need to be talking 24/7

You don't need constant reassurance that they love you and want to talk, you can go hours without speaking and still trust their word.

5. There is a healthy roast-to-swoon ratio

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Having a true best friend within your boyfriend means that you can tell him how much you love him but also tease him for something embarrassing he has done in the same sentence, and it's wonderful.

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New relationships are filled with small white lies about what you feel like doing or whether or not you like the outfit they're wearing, but best friends are much more likely to be honest.

7. There is less caution towards messy foods

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8. You can easily spend time together without being handsy

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After awhile, you don't feel the need to be touching all the time like you would in the honeymoon phase. You are cool to sit next to each other but not be all over one another.

9. They are the first person you go to for advice, even when you know you're in the wrong

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When he's also your best friend, you start sharing problems with him that may even make you look bad, because you know he will offer the best advice without looking at you differently.

10. Nights in are more appealing than ever before

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This means you can drop the standards for pricy date nights and stay inside with a movie without feeling guilty.

11. You venture into territory that some may label "gross"

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You're much more likely to personally pick something out of your boyfriends teeth when you're also best friends. It's not gross to you guys, though.

12. You've stuck around when things get really tough

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You're a lot less likely to give up when he is also your best friend. This means sticking around when things are really hard. Relationships are hard sometimes, but you're in it for the long run.

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