In the generation that we currently live in, the lines between dating, "talking", hooking up and everything in between have been seriously blurred. I guess there are pros and cons to this, much like with anything else. You get to have some casual fun, no strings attached, you meet new people and you can absolutely figure out what you love and more importantly what you hate, but one of the biggest issues that comes with this modern attitude towards dating is the obvious lack of commitment. It seems dating is more of a game these days, and everyone is keeping score.
If you know me at all, you will know that I am definitely not the type of girl who enjoys hooking up. Casual sex and dating just aren't my scene, though no judgment passed on those who enjoy the flippant one-night-stand. This attitude being the norm in society leaves girls like me in a difficult situation, do we sacrifice our values to fit in with society, or do we be "that girl" who is often postmarked as crazy and commitment-hungry?
This is my testament to you all who care to know:
Be "that girl", be a force of nature, never sacrifice your values or morals for anyone! If you have gone through the past twenty years of your life living a certain way, upholding a certain set of morals, a certain vision for your future, stick to it. Certain things we expect don't happen, like the fact that that dating isn't a fairytale, losing your virginity probably didn't have as much of an effect on you as you thought it would, men don't come in and swoop you off your feet. All these childhood dreams and expectations are out the window, but there are so many things that aren't. Whatever you want from a relationship, you deserve.
In my case, I ask for a few "seemingly" simple things from my partner. I demand mutual respect for the opinions of one another. I expect him to be understanding of my busy schedule, be tolerant of my family, be accepting of my insecurities and most of all, be respectful of my boundaries. All I am asking for is respect and honesty. Is that so hard?!
Evidently, for some men it is, and unfortunately, it only takes one time of a man telling you that you aren't worth it for you to actually believe that.
That's why I am here, to tell you that you are most certainly worth it. You are worthy of anything that you want and should not settle for less in a relationship. In today's society, everything is a game, but darling, YOU ARE THE PRIZE.