It Is Your Timeline, It Won't Look Like Anybody Else's

It Is Your Timeline, It Won't Look Like Anybody Else's

Stop comparing yourself to others and work on you.

In life, we have a habit of comparing things. This restaurant is better than that one. This movie is funnier than that one. Whatever the two things are, we are quick to form opinions on which one is superior. This is a normal thing that can become dangerous when you start comparing your life to the lives of people around you. No matter what stage you are in life, graduated from college, preparing to graduate, just starting... you can often find that there is someone in the same stage you're in that seems to be superior to you. They look like they have their lives together or that they have all the answers. Maybe they are on the same career path as you but they get more opportunities than you've had. They get more recognition than you do or life just simply appears easier for them. You work hard and you try and you fail, again and again, and again. You second guess yourself and start to wonder if the path you're on is even for you. What's worse is family and friends...

As if you didn't beat yourself up enough about not being where you want to be here come the people you love making you feel worse. At family functions, everyone wants to know your business. "What are you doing this summer?" "What are you going to do with that major?" "Do you have a job yet?" "I think you should do XYZ" Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they are trying to help... or maybe they are literally just being noisy. But answering the same questions over and over and not having a better answer every time can make you feel stuck and like a failure. Then your friends. "You sure that's what you want to do?" "I think you should do this not that" "I can't even imagine you doing that" Or they are quick to tell you their accomplishments and though you are happy for them, you want to be able to tell them what you've done too. Me personally, I have a sense of humor and a certain quickness that helps move the conversation along but not everyone has that. Some of you are fed up.

Well, I just want to tell you right now... Stop being mad at them for asking. They are not going to stop until they see something happening. Stop being mad at yourself for being where you are. IT. IS. YOUR. TIMELINE. It's not anyone else's. This is the path YOU were supposed to take. And it's not going to look like your sibling's or your peer's or anyone else's but yours. So, give yourself a break. There is a good chance that even though you are not where you want to be, there is someone who sees you and is thinking "I wish I had what they had." Stop comparing yourself. It just leads to you not appreciating what you've done and acknowledging what you can do. It's not easy, but anything worth it in life isn't.

You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Keep working. Keep believing in you. And one day, they won't have to ask what you're doing... They can read all about it.

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To The Teacher Who Was So Much More

Thank you for everything

I think it's fair to say that most people remember at least one teacher who had a lasting impact on them. I have been incredibly lucky to have several teachers who I will never forget, but one individual takes the cake. So here's to you: thank you for all you have done.

Thank you for teaching me lessons not just in the textbook.

Although you taught a great lecture, class was never just limited to the contents of the course. Debates and somewhat heated conversations would arise between classmates over politics and course material, and you always encouraged open discussion. You embraced the idea of always having an opinion, and always making it be heard, because why waste your voice? You taught me to fight for things I believed in, and to hold my ground in an argument. You taught me to always think of others before doing and speaking. You showed me the power of kindness. Thank you for all the important lessons that may not have been included in the curriculum.

Thank you for believing in me.

Especially in my senior year, you believed in me when other teachers didn't. You showed me just what I could accomplish with a positive and strong attitude. Your unwavering support kept me going, especially when I melted into a puddle of tears weekly in your office. You listened to my stupid complaints, understood my overwhelming stress-induced breakdowns, and told me it was going to be okay. Thank you for always being there for me.

Thank you for inspiring me.

You are the epitome of a role model. Not only are you intelligent and respected, but you have a heart of gold and emit beautiful light where ever you go. You showed me that service to others should not be looked at as a chore, but something to enjoy and find yourself in. And I have found myself in giving back to people, thanks to your spark. Thank you for showing me, and so many students, just how incredible one person can be.

Thank you for changing my life.

Without you, I truly would not be where I am today. As cliche as it sounds, you had such a remarkable impact on me and my outlook on life. Just about a year has passed since my graduation, and I'm grateful to still keep in touch. I hope you understand the impact you have made on me, and on so many other students. You are amazing, and I thank you for all you have done.

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Five Tips to Get on Top of Your 2019: Tech Editions

Yeah, there's an app for that.


Technology is the course of the future, why not use it to get on top of your new year? Make 2019 the year you stop sleeping on these great productivity apps and get grinding! Best part, all the apps I've included here are free.

Google Calendar.

Look at that beauty.

I LOVE Google Calendar! Not only is it a great tool to map out your week, it comes with cool features. You can color code tasks and events, get text reminders and so much more. You can even sync your calendar with other people's (this is very helpful for roommates or study buddies).

Google Doc File Folders


Sick of that long list of documents in your Google Docs? You can make file folders to organize all of your docs!

Momentum Chrome Extension

This is by far my favorite productivity app. It's a Chrome extension that acts as a home page whenever you open a new window or tab. It comes complete with the weather, a motivational quote and a to-do list! The best feature is their "main focus for the day". It keeps you grounded for sure- especially when it pops up with every tab and forces you to think about all you need to accomplish.


This is a to-do list on steroids- definitely worth checking out!


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