It Is Your Timeline, It Won't Look Like Anybody Else's

It Is Your Timeline, It Won't Look Like Anybody Else's

Stop comparing yourself to others and work on you.

In life, we have a habit of comparing things. This restaurant is better than that one. This movie is funnier than that one. Whatever the two things are, we are quick to form opinions on which one is superior. This is a normal thing that can become dangerous when you start comparing your life to the lives of people around you. No matter what stage you are in life, graduated from college, preparing to graduate, just starting... you can often find that there is someone in the same stage you're in that seems to be superior to you. They look like they have their lives together or that they have all the answers. Maybe they are on the same career path as you but they get more opportunities than you've had. They get more recognition than you do or life just simply appears easier for them. You work hard and you try and you fail, again and again, and again. You second guess yourself and start to wonder if the path you're on is even for you. What's worse is family and friends...

As if you didn't beat yourself up enough about not being where you want to be here come the people you love making you feel worse. At family functions, everyone wants to know your business. "What are you doing this summer?" "What are you going to do with that major?" "Do you have a job yet?" "I think you should do XYZ" Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they are trying to help... or maybe they are literally just being noisy. But answering the same questions over and over and not having a better answer every time can make you feel stuck and like a failure. Then your friends. "You sure that's what you want to do?" "I think you should do this not that" "I can't even imagine you doing that" Or they are quick to tell you their accomplishments and though you are happy for them, you want to be able to tell them what you've done too. Me personally, I have a sense of humor and a certain quickness that helps move the conversation along but not everyone has that. Some of you are fed up.

Well, I just want to tell you right now... Stop being mad at them for asking. They are not going to stop until they see something happening. Stop being mad at yourself for being where you are. IT. IS. YOUR. TIMELINE. It's not anyone else's. This is the path YOU were supposed to take. And it's not going to look like your sibling's or your peer's or anyone else's but yours. So, give yourself a break. There is a good chance that even though you are not where you want to be, there is someone who sees you and is thinking "I wish I had what they had." Stop comparing yourself. It just leads to you not appreciating what you've done and acknowledging what you can do. It's not easy, but anything worth it in life isn't.

You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Keep working. Keep believing in you. And one day, they won't have to ask what you're doing... They can read all about it.

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10 Gifts Every Girl Who's Trying To Adult Should Add To Their Christmas List This Year

Start investing in your future!


Here are some great gift ideas for the girl who is starting her life as an adult! These are just some basic essentials that can help you at least fake it 'till you make it!

1. A crock pot

There are going to be many days where you just want to make an easy meal an then come home from a long day and have it all cooked and ready. A crock pot is perfect for this and you can even make amazing desserts. Crockpots are typically on a super sale on Black Friday so be on the lookout for that.

2. A nice knife

There is nothing more aggravating then wanting to cook a nice meal for your self and getting hand cramps every other second because your Walmart knives can't cut through a piece of chicken. Although sometimes a nice knife or knife set can be expensive, it will be a great investment because you won't need to buy a new knife every year.

3. A pair of rain boots

There is nothing worse than waking up on a rainy day knowing you are about to be soaked when you walk outside. Whether its Hunter boots, Sperrys, Duck Boots or just Target rain boots get to wear out in the rain besides Vans. There is nothing worse than walking around in wet shoes all day.

4. A reliable computer

Although this is a more expensive gift, having a reliable computer is extremely important! If you can't rely on your computer you won't be able to get your work or school work done and you could lose important documents and it will cause a lot of extra

5. An e-reader

The older you get, the more important it becomes to read. There is so much knowledge that is to be gained from reading and why not try to absorb all the knowledge that you can while you're young! There are also a lot of books out there on how to adult which are usually hilarious but still provide a lot of help. If you are looking at a Kindle, Amazon usually releases pretty good deals on their products for the holiday season.

6. A blender

Smoothies are such an easy and healthy snack/meal that you can make and if you get one of the smaller, personal blenders it makes your life so easy! Along with crock pots, blenders are also always on sale on Black Friday so be on the lookout for one you like and share it with your friends and family!

7. Business clothes

In the next few years of your life, you are bound to end up somewhere that you need to have business attire. Whether it is a presentation at school, an interview, or maybe even a headshot photo it is critical to have a nice outfit stowed away in your closet.

8. A quality portable charger

For those of us who are always on the go, it is really nice to have a portable charger, especially one that holds multiple charges. This is such an easy gift to ask for and they are always on sale at Christmas time. Once you get one you'll never go back to your dead phone days!

9. A reusable water bottle

Whether it is a Swell, Hydroflask, or just an insulated bottle off Amazon, a reusable water bottle is so crucial to everyday life! Hopefully, you want one to help save the environment but a nice water bottle could also keep your water cold all day long which is perfect for those of us who are always super busy.

10. Stocks.

This may sound like a silly present and although it is not something tangible that you can have Christmas morning, it is something your future self will thank you for. Instead of having a relative buy you a present you don't really need, you should have them invest some of their money into a stock for you. Then over the years, you can watch your money grow in the market and sell it whenever need be. If you're on the road to adulating you might as well start with investing in your future.

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14 Signs You Go To A Small School No One Has Ever Heard Of

"Your class size is what?!?"


When most people are in high school, they look at all of the big schools that are known around the country. Schools like Rutgers, Ohio State, UCLA, University of Pittsburgh and West Virginia University are often at the top of peoples' lists. Believe it or not, some people don't want to attend a huge college. If you're like me, you like having small class sizes where your professors get to know you and you always see someone you know when you're walking on campus.

Once you decide where you're going and become a student there, you constantly hear the same comments from people, whether they be good or bad- but you wouldn't want it any other way. Here are signs that you go to a small school that no one has ever heard of:

1. People always mess up your mascot

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"Broncs? Like the Denver Broncos?"

"No. Just the Broncs."

2. "Oh I've never heard of that. Where is it?"

3. "Wouldn't you rather go to *insert huge state school here*?"

The answer is always the same — nope.

4. You find people all the time who know or is related to someone who went to your school

"Oh, my cousin's friend went there!"

5. "Your class size is what?!?"

6. You've never had class in a lecture hall

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Or class with more than 50 students.

7. When people come to visit, they can't believe how small your campus is compared to theirs

Well, at least we can get up 10 minutes before class starts instead of an hour to catch a bus.

8. Dining options are limited

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But you joke around and make the most of it, secretly hoping your campus will open a Panera or Chipotle like every other school.

9. People are amazed that you actually get to know your professors and the people in your classes, and that they get to know you

Not to mention that professors are a great reference for getting a job after graduation.

10. If you went to a big high school, your college isn't much bigger

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There are about 1,000 students per class, so only around 300-400 more students than you graduated high school with.

11. Your school doesn't have all of the big sports, like football

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But hey, at least we're still undefeated!

12. When you get into your major classes, you always have the same people in them

13. You can't find anything with your school's logo on it, so constantly buy more apparel from the bookstore

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You walk out of there $100 poorer with a new sweatshirt, mug, and sweatpants that you didn't need.

14. You get really excited when someone has actually heard of your school


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