"So, your dad’s black and your mom’s white?"

I just told you I am biracial so yes, one of my parents is black and the other is white. I’m not sure what compelled you to assume the races of my parents, but I don’t appreciate it. I don't understand your interest in my parent's race when I've already told you mine, and I don't understand why you are so curious that you absolutely must ask me such an absurd question.

It seems harmless, really. You are just curious about my race, right?

Here’s the thing: every time you make this assumption you make it clear that you don’t believe a white man and black woman are ever in relationships.

It happens, all the time actually.

Black women and white men, white women and black men, black men and black men, white men and white men, white women and white women, black women and black women and so on.

It happens all the time.

White and black people have relationships, and it doesn't matter which gender is which race.

Some days, I wondered what the response would be if I told you the opposite, that my mom is black and my father’s white. So I tried it, and the responses I got were best described as ignorant. Pure shock crossed your face. You ask more, prying questions such as how they met. The most bothersome response is “that’s unusual!”

It's not, and you need to stop treating it like it is.

Stop making people think black women cannot be with white men. It’s completely acceptable for any person to be with another person regardless of their skin color. Stop reaffirming stereotypes and making racist assumptions, just enjoy the fact that two people loved each other and created a child who resembles both of them.