We may not understand how someone can reach the point of self-harm; we may not realize that's where they're headed. Some of us may blame ourselves for the tragedy, but ALWAYS know that there are plenty of other options.
As our community is mourning the recent suicides of students at Grand Junction High School, it is our responsibility as friends, family and citizens to talk about these situations.
I want to make it clear, that it is okay to be whoever or whatever you want to be. No social "norms" are expected of anyone, ever, even if society says differently. Besides, normal is boring.
If you have ever had self-harming thoughts:
Do not be afraid to be who you are. Do not be afraid to be proud of who you are. Do not be scared to speak your mind because your opinion matters.
If you know someone who has had self-harming thoughts:
The best thing you can do for that someone is to be their shoulder to lean on and help them get help. Listen and help take their mind off of whatever they may be thinking. Please do not leave them alone. You may be their only light.
If you don't know the signs of self-harming thoughts:
There are many signs such as: losing interest, making comments about being worthless and saying goodbye. (Click here to familiarize yourself.) But while these are signs, a lot of suicides are unexpected, just like the two Grand Junction has experienced this semester.
Sometimes there isn't a lot we think we can do to prevent these tragedies, but please do not blame yourself for not noticing "warning signs." No one should leave this world early, but sometimes these mishaps develop. They're out of our control.
If you or someone you know are contemplating any type of self-harm, get help. Contact those in authority: crisis hotlines and counselors are here to help. There are so many people out there who are trained to talk to us about anything upsetting. Please do not be afraid to reach out, we are only a phone-call, text message or conversation away.
NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE:
1-800-273-8255 (available 24-hours a day)
http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
COLORADO MESA UNIVERSITY SUICIDE PREVENTION:
Kate Simonds, 970-248-1601, ksimonds@coloradomesa.edu
GRAND JUNCTION PREVENTION:
Western Colorado Suicide Prevention Foundation
970-778-4882
IF THERE IS AN EMERGENCY, PLEASE CALL 911.