If you’ve been reading my articles regularly, you probably already know that I am all about body positivity and sex positivity and I believe in making safe choices about what’s right for you. That’s all a part of your health and well-being. I believe that everyone should have sex who wants to - not just men, everyone and anyone.

But, here’s the thing about the time of our lives most of us are in right now: it’s all about the hookup. Tinder, the rendezvous, quick in and out, one-night stand, etc. Why does it have to be so distant and action-oriented? As a society, we’ve created a form of connection that is remote and impulsive, isolated and everywhere, all at the same time. There’s no wonder why confusion can come between even the most harmless of hookups.

I suppose hookup culture came about in rejection of another idea – courtship and marital rules and societal expectations regarding sex. I agree with that. Everyone, especially women, should have the freedom to choose and not just feel ‘chosen’ by her male counterpart, vice-versa. So how then, after such a monumental shift, did we stray so far from the original intent?

The modern American college experience is full of innuendos, the incessant need to see and be seen and some sense of entitlement. Hookups have grown to become a large part of that experience and accepted as normal. It’s the normalcy at which I cringe. Lack of feeling and nonchalant attitudes are two of the characteristics of the hookup, both of which seep into other aspects of college culture like academics and friendships.

The carelessness that is bred in the hookup environment isn’t being compartmentalized by those taking part and instead bleeds through to professional and other personal relationships. By nature, the hookup is fleeting, existing only a moment in time, so far removed from real feelings. I argue that a weakening of passion for more important, life-shaping interests is caused by these detached meet-ups that foster immediacy and unreal expectations of social standards in the future.

With all of that said, I really am not out to judge anyone who does find the casual hookup fun and worth their time. What I am saying is that a bit more thought should go into the idea and intent behind the newly formed tradition of quick interaction in this modern world.

We are all products of our environment and the further we propel into the future of Snapchat videos, Facebook posts and Instagram photos, the more the customs of that created, fictional universe may trickle into reality.