When You're The College Girl With A Chronic Condition

When You're The College Girl With A Chronic Condition

I won't allow my pain to stop me. I won't allow my condition to control my life.

College is hard. Not just the school work, the tests, the essays or research papers. Not just balancing a social life, sleep, and maintaining a good GPA. But all of it, from organizations, GPA, social issues, peer pressure, somewhat learning how to be an independent adult, finding yourself, and making important life decisions.

It's a crucial part of our lives for those of us that choose this particular path, and it's not easy. But when you happen to get a chronic health condition thrown your way on top of the usual college, or just life, stress, things gets harder.

Professors don't always want to work with you when you miss an exam for a doctor's appointment since it's the third time it has happened that semester, even if you can't help it because your specialist is only available on certain days.

It's not always easy to understand material when you miss a lecture (I don't understand how some people skip).

Club leaders aren't always sympathetic when you can't make an event because you're having an episode and can't make it out of the bed.

Not everyone is going to understand, or even try to.

Your new friends might not understand why you're just really down some days. They might not get why you can't drink with them because you're not supposed to drink with the new medicine your doctor prescribed you. They might not get why you don't always act like the rest of them.

It is okay though if they don't understand or if they aren't sympathetic. What they don't see is that because we are dealing with everything they deal with, plus a health problem that sometimes tries to take over our lives. We are some of the strongest people they will ever meet. We can handle just about anything, because we pretty much already do. We might not act like the normal college kid, but that's because we aren't.

And the most impressive thing is that regardless of everything, we don't let it stop us. We join that sorority or fraternity, become a member of that club, go to that formal or football game, and we try our very best to have an absolutely normal college experience. We schedule our surgeries around tests, we take our medicine in our bag so we can take it on the go, we try to manage the pain on our bad days, and we push through.

In the end, we know we won't ever truly get sympathy or a break from the people in this world, and we don't need it. We know there is a reason for it all, and we will come out stronger in the end.

So for those of you fighting through college, a job, or even life with a chronic disorder, disease, condition: push through. Prove that you are strong and that your health won't hold you back.

Prove that you can do it because you can.

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value.

Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.


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Truth Bomb: If You Say Addiction 'Isn't A Disease,' You Can't Call Cancer Or STDs Diseases, Either

If addiction wasn't a disease, cancer wouldn't be one either.


If you think addiction isn't a disease, then you're probably just as big of a simple halfwit as I used to be.

Before I was enlightened by a friend on Facebook, I thought addiction wasn't a disease and I was dead set on believing so. This close-minded way of thinking got me nowhere, but now that I've opened my mind and began to understand what addiction actually is... I get it.

Most of the morons that think addiction is not a disease have a few arguments... one being you chose to pick up the needle/bottle/etc. Number two being you cannot get addicted if you just don't do drugs in the first place. Well, truth is, people choose to do a lot of things that give them diseases.

Let me ask you a few questions...

Do you drink? Do you smoke? Do you have sex? Do you choose to do these things?

The answer to at least one of those questions is probably yes.

So, If your liver fails from drinking, am I allowed to say "you don't have a disease because you chose to drink, so I have no sympathy for you?"

Or can I tell you that (your) lung cancer isn't a disease because you have smoked for 10 plus years?

Maybe it would be OK if I told you that the STD you acquired from having sex isn't a disease, due to the fact that you totally chose to do that.

(I want to acknowledge that I know some men and women are forced into sexual relations, this does not apply to them in any way.)

Those few arguments utterly destroy "addiction is not a disease."

Next, I would like to say I do believe addiction is a choice, and the only way you get the disease is by trying it because you want to. But the reality of it is, people try a lot of things that could hurt them in some way. Whether it's driving a car and getting in a car accident, or swinging on a rope swing and breaking your leg.

Yes, you chose to do it. And yes, you still deserve medical help.

Everyone deserves help when they are struggling or in a low place. I can say this first hand. I live with an addict. I know how it works. I see the choices made, and it may begin as a choice, but whether you like it or not; it's a disease.

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