I have a friend that recently fell out of love.
I know that usually when someone says "a friend" it is a very wimpy way of saying themselves. However, I hope that by now it is very clear that I am more than willing to share my personal experiences for the sake of writing and learning.
So, this friend of mine fell out of love and has been getting lots of hateful comments from their peers about leading their significant other on, as well as being an "I Love You Whore." But there are two sides to every story, so read on for my defense.
In the third grade, I watched my best friend's parents split up. One day his mom picked him up from school and they left with his siblings for some small town in Colorado in an attempt to leave his dad. Despite plenty of emails and late night phone calls, this kid and I started to fall out of friendship. We talked a lot about his parents and it took me nearly ten years to realize that we faded exactly like his parents did. It's easy to blame it on him and say that he was practically raised to fade out of relationships, but this friend that fell out of love got me thinking again.
If you are able to tell me why people fall in love, then you are able to blame people for falling out of love. How do you expect someone to justify falling out of love when there was no reason for them to fall in love in the first place? If you're able to rationalize why you fell in and out of love, then maybe it wasn't true love.
Sometimes people "fall in love" because the other person has something tangible that they need, but I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the innocent love that you find when you care about them and don't even know why. It just happens.
My friend is not a tease, he isn't flaky; my childhood friend's parents might have actually cared about one another because all these people are humans that simply fall in and out of love.
There are exceptions to these thoughts. There are those few people that meet and refuse to fall out of love. Rare, but real. But regardless, in the end, no feeling is a weird one, it's just yours.