The Importance Of Learning To Love Your Body

The Importance Of Learning To Love Your Body

Your body loves you, so love it back!

Some days I have terrible body image. Some days I "feel fat" and bloated. Some days I get down on myself. Now, I know I'm not the only person who experiences these emotions, and I know it's a normal part of being human. But how we deal with these feelings can have a tremendous affect on how we function overall.

When I find myself in these moments, it's easy for me to turn to the mirror and stare at my reflection, searching for every imperfection, and tell myself I look fat. This is NOT a healthy coping mechanism at all. When we focus on any part of the body for a long time, our vision becomes distorted. We can start seeing and believing things that aren't there just by telling ourselves they are, and our body image becomes worse.

I also find it easy to step on the scale just to "see where I'm at." This is NOT a healthy way to cope with negative emotions, either. First of all, weight is just a number that by no means defines your self worth. It's true that there is a healthy weight range depending on body type and height, but staying at a set number should not be a priority. The truth is, our weight fluctuates and, when we experience bloating, our weight will fluctuate upwards. Sometimes a number that is higher than we want or expect it to be can really mess with our minds and make all of the emotions worse.

Whenever you are having a moment of bad body image or you just "feel fat," please avoid the mirror and scale. The last thing we need during times of vulnerability is mental deception. Instead, do something that makes you feel good. Listen to your favorite song, go for a walk, write a poem, take a bubble bath, talk to a friend - do what makes you happy and takes your mind away from the negative thoughts and feelings. I promise that this is a much healthier and more effective coping mechanism than degrading your reflection or searching for a magic number. These feelings will pass - they always do. Sometimes it's quick while other times it takes a few days. However long it is that your feel "stuck," though, don't let yourself get down. Keep your chin up, keep striving toward happiness, and know that you so much more than just a reflection or number.

Think about what your body can do rather than what it looks like. You have a heart that beats, lungs that breath, skin that protects you and keeps you warm, legs that run, hands that hold things, eyes that see, a nose that smells, a mouth that tastes and smiles! Your body loves you and works hard to keep you alive every single day, so love it back! Don't let negative thoughts and feelings interfere with that.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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The Only Difference Between A Summer Body And Your Winter Body Is Your Attitude

Your love handles need love, too.


Summer is coming and for most, this is a very exciting time. The weather is warm, school is out, and the beaches are packed. Although summer is great most of the time, it can also be super stressful for people who aren't confident in their bodies. There is a body ideal that is set on media sharing sites such as Instagram, Facebook, and VSCO that makes people feel like they need to fit that image to be considered attractive.

My first problem is, well, these images are unrealistic in the first place. Most of the time, people posting photos of them in their bikinis or swim trunks have edited the photo in some way. Whether they've edited it to appear skinnier, more muscular, or tanner, odds are they've doctored the photo in some way. Even if they haven't, who cares!

I know I've personally struggled when it comes time to buy a bathing suit. Honestly, it's the worst thing ever. Looking in the mirror and seeing what you look like after the holidays and 4 months without the sun can be shocking. It's time to embrace this! I've seen so many people posting "working on my summer body," or "getting ready for bikini season," and it's honestly just sad.

A person shouldn't have to change their everyday lifestyle to want to "look good" in their bathing suit. What's wrong with a little extra weight on the thighs or some cellulite on your butt? As long as you feel confident with your body, you should want to embrace it and show it off!

Feeling confident in today's world is harder than ever for women. The media is pushing body positivity, but it doesn't seem like it applies to everyone. If a celebrity is a little thicker, everyone applauds them and talks about how beautiful they are, "even though they're bigger," and that is exactly where the problem lies. Shifting the standard of beauty because someone is bigger totally discredits whatever compliments they receive. It's a backhanded compliment and it's not fair to include a comment about their weight while trying to compliment them. Someone's beauty should not be defined by how big or small they are and saying people are an exception to the rule probably hurts them more than you think.

I don't know about you but I won't be doing anything to prepare my body for this summer because these people are going to take what I give them! All in all, love yourself first and it'll give others the opportunity to do the same!

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