"I am trying, well you should be trying harder"

The words that I have always hated my entire life, when an adult used to tell me "well, try harder," I used to get so upset. I am trying is a serious matter, and I am not trying to sound facetious it really is. For millennials anyways. For anyone with a mental illness, they understand. For anyone with depression or seasonal sad disorder, they understand. For anyone with an obsessive-compulsive disorder they understand. The words "I am trying" mean more than anyone can know.

It means that I am trying so leave me the fuck alone - because if I wasn't trying then I would be giving up and I don't want to do that. It is important to note that I am trying means you are most definitely trying, don't discount someone's "trying" because they are not trying as hard as you want them too. Everyone tries at a different pace and not everyone can try as hard and as fast as you want them to. We are all different and we are all trying to survive and live based on minimum wage jobs and a heart full of stress. We cannot do everything that you ask of us all at once - it does get overwhelming.

Please, if anyone says "I am trying" to you, give encouraging words instead of saying "you can try harder." Say things that make them feel like their trying is paying off and it is doing some good work out here. We are all trying and sometimes we can't have you also screaming in our ear how we are not doing shit and we should try harder. We are all in this together, please be mindful of what other people are going through.