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People My Age Are Getting Married And I Can't Even Manage To Go To The Grocery Store Regularly

Marriage is a commitment, and I can't even commit to a relationship.

Charlotte Trattner
Oct 30, 2018
University of Central Florida
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People My Age Are Getting Married And I Can't Even Manage To Go To The Grocery Store Regularly
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There must be something in the water.

Within the past few months, several of my friends from high school have either gotten engaged, married, pregnant or had a baby. Let me preface this article by saying I am not writing this article out of bitterness. For my friends who are on this life path, congratulations! I wish you nothing but happiness whether it is for your marriage or family.

This article is about the reassurance I get from seeing other people take this path. When I saw my friends sharing photos of their babies, I had the strangest feeling come over me. How come people my age take care of another human being, a baby in fact? I am afraid I would have no idea what to do, or even worse, I fear I would break a baby. Babysitting is one thing, but preparing to take care of a child for the rest of your life is something else. I can't even remember to water my plant.

When my mom was my age, she was already engaged to my dad. When I was younger, I believed I had to be engaged by 20 and married by 22 just like my mom. Now, I realize how far I am from being prepared to commit to someone for the rest of my life. I can't even commit to one minor in college or find a regular day to go to the grocery store.

College is a time to learn about yourself. What are your dreams, ambitions, or goals? At least, that is how I view college. Let me use this time to focus on what I want. Granted, I do not want to generalize people who are getting married are solely focusing on married life. One friend has a thriving business and is attending college classes.

I don't mean to say I never want to get married, but that is a dream for the future. There are so many things I want to achieve before marriage. There are places I want to travel to, and goals I want to meet. Maybe that is weird. Some college friends already know what kind of wedding dress they to wear or where to have their wedding. These are all things I have no answer to, and I wonder if that is bad. Is it wrong that I have no idea what kind of dress I want to wear, but I have a list of places I want to visit and travel to?

There are so many opportunities the future holds and I have no clue what they are. Maybe I will travel the world? Perhaps I will get engaged? Maybe I will finally settle on a minor or finalize a day to go to the grocery store. Whatever life throws at me, hopefully, I am ready for it.

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