I'm Not In A Sorority Because I Know What's Good For Me

I'm Not In A Sorority Because I Know What's Good For Me

I don't have anything against sororities, it's just not my thing.

I'm not a sorority girl. I don't have anything against sororities, it's just not my thing, and I think we need to stop treating girls who actively choose to not be in a sorority like there is something wrong with them.

Everyone assumes that girls who don't want to be in a sorority aren't in a sorority because they are taking the sorority stereotypes as facts. That's not the case at all, actually.

Believe it or not, some of just don't want to be in a sorority. I don't believe that all sorority girls drink and party and waste their life away. In fact, a lot of my close friends are in sororities — good for them if that's what they want to do. Some sororities even have amazing philanthropic efforts that should be commended.

But I'm sick and tired of people thinking that just because I'm not in a sorority and have no desire to be in one that I hate them or that I think all sorority girls are trashy — because I don't.

I enjoy spending my free time writing, editing and reading or being with my horse, which involves an hour long drive one way. Being in a sorority would take up time that I like to use in other ways because of where my priorities are.

I'm also just not a group person. I'd rather have a few close friends instead of being surrounded by large numbers of people all of the time. For me, the thought of having so many close "sisters" is not appealing. That just means I'm going to be forced to socialize with more people than I really have a desire to.

Why put myself in that situation?

Really, though, I wouldn't add much to a sorority, and I'd rather be in the corner by myself than in the center surrounded by tons of other people. If I socialize for an extended period of time, I almost feel exhausted — OK, maybe that's an exaggeration — but I still don't love it.

SEE ALSO: 7 Things Girls In Sororities Just Need To Stop Saying To Girls Who Aren't

See, there's nothing wrong with being in a sorority if it is the right fit for you and your personality, but we need to stop assuming that any girl without a desire to be in a sorority hates them. I have no desire to join not because I hate them, but because I know what is good for me and who I am.

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Sorority recruitment can be a crazy experience. You basically spend a week running from house to house hoping to find one that is a good fit for you at the end of the week. Looking back as a recruiter there are so many things I wish I had known and done during recruitment to make the week easier on myself so here are some of my recommendations.

1. Don't feel intimidated

Not gonna lie, having 150 women dressed in the same outfit scream a door chant at you is really terrifying the first time it happens. But don't worry, these women were at some point in the exact same spot as you are and everyone thinks door chants are at least a little weird.

2. Don't listen to what other people say about houses

Many of the rumors you hear about houses and pretty outlandish and the vast majority of them are also untrue. Additionally, everybody has a different opinion about each house but their opinions should not matter to you. What should matter to you is the conversations and experiences you have at that house during recruitment.

3. Trust your Rho Gamma

I cannot stress this enough: just trust your Rho Gam, there is a reason they were selected to fulfill this position.

4. Bring a water bottle

When I went through recruitment it was over 100 degrees. Every. Single. Day. Make sure you have a cold water bottle to keep yourself hydrated and cool.

5. Pack some snacks

The first few days of recruitment are pretty long and you usually only get a short lunch during the day, so I recommend bringing some to stay energized.

6. Wear comfortable shoes

Nothing is worse than having to run across the hills of Greek row in a super cute but horribly uncomfortable pair of heals. While I still recommend wearing some cute shoes, make sure you're wearing comfortable shoes that you can hustle in.

7. Take lots of notes

Write down everything you remember about the house. The outfits they were wearing, the names of the girls you talked to, the conversations you had with them, their values as a house, any likes or dislikes, the list goes on. Writing everything you can remember down will help jog your memory later when you have to pref houses.

8. Wear LOTS of deodorant

There's a good chance it's gong to be pretty hot during recruitment so wear lots of deodorant and maybe even pack some in your bag to use throughout the day.

9. Don't be scared to ask questions

Recruiters loves it when PNMs ask questions because it lets us tell you more about the organizations we love so feel free to ask away!

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11. Trust the system

Not trusting the system during recruitment was the biggest mistake I made. I ended up dropping out of recruitment only to end up joining one of the last houses I had before I dropped. While you may be frustrated during recruitment because a house you loved dropped you, remember that everything happens for a reason and you'll probably end up joining a house that you'll love even more.

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