'When I get this I'll Be Happy...'

'When I get this I'll Be Happy...'

Why living in the now is so crucial.

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What if we weren't always looking for the "Next Best Thing?" What if we decided to live in the present and indulge in what we've already been blessed with? Here's how this thought crossed my mind and held on to it:

About two weeks ago I moved into my apartment in Downtown Charleston, a one bedroom that seemed like what was going to be the best thing that had ever happened to me. I was going to be able to decorate an entirely new home, and have it all to myself; how could it get any better? As time went on and my move-in date was approaching, I found myself getting more and more excited. I spent my lonely hours at Home Goods or Target, hoping to live out the aesthetic that had been in my mind since I signed the lease for my new apartment.

My parents came into town, heightening my excitement upon their arrival. However, move in day came, and I felt the high that I had been experiencing starting to come to a close. I had been waiting on this day for a while, and the moment that it came, I caught myself saying, "This is it?"

I love my apartment, I mean LOVE my apartment, and don't regret it one bit. However, I do regret attempting to fill the void that creeps up into my heart with "things" that will never satisfy my inner being. Not that I'm sad or lonely, but the moment that I find myself running to things that will never quench my spiritual thirst, I find myself running away from God and temporarily filling the "God-shaped hole" with a puzzle piece that will never fit.

To you, your puzzle piece might be chasing after a significant other in hopes that they will complete you, or even turning to hobbies that feel good at the time, but as soon as you're done with them, you feel the void that you had been hoping to escape from all along start to resurface. While I have experience with all the above, it's a tricky situation to avoid. We're all guilty of idolizing things, people, or even places that we feel will fill that hole.

In today's society, we will always be looking for the next best thing, hoping to keep up with our ever-changing society. We will always idolize future days that we know are going to be fun filled. However, we must remind ourselves how crucial it is to live in the now. Do all the things today, live your life today, go on a run today, and don't wait for an endearing future moment to keep you from doing it all today. Once we know and believe this in our soul, we will truly realize the crushing reality of temporary pleasure, and focus on the now.

After all, this is the exact moment that we were made for, right?

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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You Don't Need A 'Bikini Body' To Fully Love Yourself This Summer

You don't need to be stick-thin to feel good about your body.

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One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Want to know why? Because it's true.

I could look in the mirror one day and feel totally confident about myself. Then I'll see a post on Instagram of some beautiful girl, feel awful, and wonder why I don't look like that. But there's a reason I don't look like that — because I'm me, not them.

The fact of the matter is that we need to love ourselves for who we are. We need to stop comparing our beauty to that of others. We are all our own people and we should feel confident in our beauty.

Bikini season is a major source of struggle for me and many others. Everyone is lounging on the beach in bikinis and you feel like you just want to hide under your towel. Every other photo on your social media is a super skinny girl from high school showing off her body. You will NEVER see a photo of me in a bikini on social media because I'm simply not comfortable in my body enough to show it off like that. I have always wished that I was, but at the same time, that's not who I am.

You don't need to be stick thin to feel good about your body. Every body is beautiful, and we need to embrace that. If we constantly look to others as a source of comparison, we will literally never be happy in our own skin.

Bikini season is tough as it is, don't make it tougher on yourself by allowing your mind to take over. Enjoy your spring break, enjoy your summer, enjoy your life. You deserve it. You deserve happiness.

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