If You Went Through Sorority Recruitment, This One Is For You

If You Went Through Sorority Recruitment, This One Is For You

In my chapter, I’ve found the people that seven-year-old me wanted to find in college

When we were little, we were told how great college was going to be but nobody really prepared us for what it was really going to be like. It is safe to say, going to college is just one big process of trial-and-error. All of you decided to take an extra blind step into the void by going through recruitment and I commend each and every one of you. It isn’t an easy thing to do; to put yourself out there and try to connect with a single chapter after speaking to a hundred women when you are running on four hours of sleep a night. There’s nothing easy about that.

Two years ago, when I came to WSU, I was scared and I was alone and it sucked. I was the first one in my family to go Greek, I was a first-generation student, and I was the oldest in my family. I moved to Washington without a single friend in the state but, hey, I was ready to find all of these “college memories” and “lifelong friends” that everyone had been telling me about since I was seven. I had so many doubts during recruitment week. Me…going through sorority recruitment? I could never be a sorority girl. I wasn’t pretty enough. I wasn’t social enough. I wasn’t skinny enough. I wasn’t enough.

But I was wrong.

The first day that I walked into Tri Delta, I felt my fears slipping away. My first day here, I talked with a member about our mutual hatred of spaghetti, of all things. I felt comfortable and welcome…I felt like I was home. When I got my bid, I sprinted—like, I don’t run, but boy did I run—to this house and I was taken in with open arms.

It hasn’t all been easy but it has all been worth it. After some painful, but necessary, soul-searching, I’ve found my forever friends in this chapter. Without those friends, I can confidently say that I wouldn’t still be at this university.

In Tri Delta, I’ve found the people that seven-year-old me wanted to find. What seven-year-old me didn’t think about, though, is that four years is only four years, and sometimes you’re only given half that before your friends graduate and have to leave you to become “real” adults. Seven-year-old me didn’t think about the ever-impending day that she will have to watch her best friend walk at graduation, knowing that we can’t live in each other’s rooms forever. Seven-year-old me had absolutely no idea just how much these people were going to mean to me. Even though it breaks my heart thinking about my days without them, I wouldn’t give up them stumbling into my life, for the world. Without this chapter, I wouldn’t have found my people.

Tri Delta is more than a house. It is a home. It is my home. It is our home. It is here that I am slowly finding myself and discovering where I want to be ten years from now.

It is in this chapter that I found my best friend. The girl who will watch anime with me long into the god-awful hours of the night and sing along to KPop even though we definitely don’t know how to speak Korean. It is in this chapter that I’ve found my two littles who are absolutely perfect. When I’m missing my three little sisters, all I have to do is find one of them and they somehow make everything better. My Greek family slowly pieced itself together, and they’ve become just as important as the family that I miss back home. It is in this chapter that I’ve found friends who love me, even when I am far from loving myself. Here I feel like I can accomplish my dreams, no matter how unrealistic I think they are. Impossible isn’t a word in this house because when you have Tri Delta, anything is possible.

I’ll tell you what I was told a year ago by a woman in this chapter who sealed the deal for me wanting to join this chapter.

As much as I’d love for you to find your home here at Tri Delta, what I really want is for you to find where you’re truly going to be happy. I want you to find where you can be yourself. I want you to be able to run to the place you already are calling home in the back of your mind. Find where you know you belong, and you’ll never regret it.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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The Football World Loses One Of Its Finest Players

Bart Starr passed away and NFL players, coaches, and fans all mourn the loss of the Packer legend, but his life and career will live on in hearts of Packer nation forever.


Bart Starr passed away at the age of 85 in Birmingham, Alabama. The NFL lost a great player. The Green Bay Packers lost a hero. And, the world lost a true gentleman. Starr's legacy has surpassed his accomplishments on the gridiron. He inspired not only his peers but the generations that have come after him. He is — and always — will be remembered as a Hall of Famer, a champion, and a Packer.

Bart Starr was a Packers legend. Starr led Green Bay to six division titles and five world championships. As the quarterback of Vince Lombardi's offense, he kept the machine going and executed the plays like no other. His mastery of the position was a large part of the Packers success in the 1960s. Starr was also the perfect teammate for the perfect team. His leadership put him in command of the Packers. Starr's time in Green Bay will not be forgotten by former players, coaches, and the fans.

Bart Starr's resume is rivaled by few in NFL history. He played in 10 postseason games and won 9 of them. He led the Packers to victory in Super Bowls I and II and won the MVP award in both games. He was the MVP of the league in 1966 and was named to the NFL All-Decade Team of the 1960s. The Packers retired his number 15 and Starr has been inducted into the Packers and Pro Football Hall of Fame.

After his playing days, Starr would become the head coach of the Packers. He could not repeat the success he had on the field from the 1960s teams. His coaching years do not take away from his legacy as one of the all-time great Packers. Starr was inducted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame in 1977.

One of Starr's last visits to Lambeau field was on a cold November night in 2015. Starr and his wife attended a ceremony in which the Packers retired Brett Favre's jersey number. Starr was the perfect personification of what it meant to be a Packer. His most heroic moment came in the 1967 NFL Championship Game. The Ice Bowl came down to a third and goal in Lambeau Field's south endzone against the Dallas Cowboys. Starr came to the sidelines and bravely told Vince Lombardi that he can sneak it in for a game-winning touchdown. Lombardi then replied, "Run it, and let's get the hell out of here." Starr ran a quarterback sneak for the game-winner and the Packers were off to Super Bowl II. Without Starr, Green Bay would not have won a second straight Super Bowl. His leadership in big game moments will live with Packers fans for a lifetime.

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Starr leaves behind his wife Cherry, his son, and three granddaughters. Packers fans will have a tight grip on the memories Bart Starr and the 60s teams created. Starr left behind a template for being a Green Bay Packer. He also left a template for being a good man and a gentleman of the game of football. He was a competitor and a leader. Packer nation mourns for the loss of one of the finest human beings the game has seen.

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