If I Should Have A Child Someday, I Hope She Is Tall

If I Should Have A Child Someday, I Hope She Is Tall

For the girls made to stand in the back during class pictures, I have some advice for you.
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If should have a child someday, I hope she is tall. It’s not that I would love any gender, race, shape or size child any less than another, but I have some thoughts to share with tall girls on the subject of growing up.

Like when she is going through puberty: I would tell her the reason certain size pants, shirts and jackets do not fit her the same way they do some other girls is because she has longer arms, a longer torso and longer legs than other girls do. And because anything in a size “tall” also assumes that the wearer is not curvy in any way. Her size is perfect the way it is. To allow a label to define her self-worth is a recipe for an empty existence.

On dating: Attraction, be it physical, emotional and/or intellectual, one prominent concept defines the difference between a romantic interest and a platonic one. Physical attraction plays a prominent role when differentiating friendship and relationships. It’s not superficial to think so, but simply the fact that people are attracted to different physical attributes. If the attraction is not there than the relationship may not be either. Tall girls are supposed to be attracted to tall guys, they are supposed to only date tall guys. Otherwise, society tells us that it doesn’t look right. Society is wrong. We should be looking at the couple in how they see each other. So date tall or date short, date whomever you choose. Don't base that choice on society’s expectations.

When she is picking out shoes for prom: If you are in love with a pair of shoes, put them back on the shelf because they are too expensive not because the heel is too high. Your date, be it a young man or a young woman or just a group of friends, should not be a determining factor in your choice of footwear. I remember when I was at the mall searching desperately for kitten heels that went with my dress and ignoring the beautiful heels that were more than two inches in fear that my date would look short. In my exasperating search, a woman working at one of the stores said one very simple thing to me: “Girl, if you look good in the shoes why should anything else matter. You’re tall, and you should rock that sh*t." Since that day, I can proudly say that I have purchased and even ruined some beautiful heels of all sizes

Tall is beautiful.

To that assh*le at the party who asks who invited the Amazons: First of all, this guy single-handedly is trying to turn the concept of a planet of independent, confident, sexy and fearless women into an insult. I do not think I need to elaborate on how short-sighted that is. To that small-minded individual that tries to turn your gift of being tall into a negative thing, know that if you were actually an Amazon it would be all too easy to physically crush him into the tiny being that he is so that his outsides reflect his insides.

When you’re taking a group photo with people shorter than you: Don't you ever shrink for anyone. Don’t you ever slouch to make others appear taller. If the people you surround yourself with expect you to hunch down so they look taller, then you need new people. By physically shrinking you are basically saying to those people in the photo and the world that you are willing to make yourself smaller to build others up when you should be building yourself up and inspiring and supporting others to do the same. Never make your star less bright so others can shine. If you are perfectly who you are and comfortable with who that person is, people will come to you. In a group of friends there should be a balance and a desire to empower one another.

In no way is this advice only applicable for young tall women, but that is my point of reference when machete-ing my way through the jungle that is adolescence. That’s exactly it. I know these things because I experienced them firsthand and am guilty of learning them the hard way and eventually discovering for myself what it truly means to stand tall. As parents, for which I have no point of reference only my personal conjecture, we should want to start our kids off confidently, especially with the ever growing rates of depression and suicide. We should be celebrating self-confidence and with that perhaps future generations can accomplish more without focusing on the trivial.

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Turning your barn into a livable shed for your guests

If you ever wanted to turn your backyard barn into a livable area for your guests, then continue reading.
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If you ever wanted to turn your backyard barn into a livable area for your guests, then continue reading.

There are several reasons why you may want to do this. Maybe your home is too small to accommodate guests, or you have visitors coming over who need privacy (sometimes, too much closeness can be overwhelming).

It could also be for your kids to have some time camping out of the house. After all, every parent needs some breathing space from the kids once in a while. You could also use it as a place for working on projects away from the distractions of the home.

Whatever your reasons, here are 8 tips courtesy of shed building experts at Wide Span Sheds for converting your barn into a livable shed.

  1. Seal up holes and cracks –

It wouldn’t do for you or your guests to receive unwanted visitors such as roaches, squirrels and snakes while living in the shed. Your first port of call therefore should be to seal up all the cracks and holes you can find.

Sealing up cracks and holes also help prevent heat from going out and moisture from coming in. This is a small task that you can probably finish up in one day. If your shed is worn out or have rickety walls, you may need to have the walls replaced or shored up. You have to make the place as comfortable as you can for whoever will stay there.

2. Allow more natural light –

Depending on the size of the existing windows, you may need to install an alternative source for natural light. A good idea is to install a skylight in roof of the shed. This usually involves cutting out a part of the roof and fixing either a fixed glass or Perspex. You can also put up a movable window which can be opened to allow in fresh air. A skylight brightens up the shed and makes it more livable and comfortable.

If you are working on your shed during the rains, ensure that you fix the skylight properly to prevent water from dripping inside.

3. Install electricity –

Electricity is a basic necessity and you may need to install it in your shed to make it more comfortable. Even if you’re expecting outdoorsy visitors who enjoy the outdoors and natural light; at the very least, it can be used to charge phones, laptops and other devices. You or your visitors can also use it to power a small camp television set or stereo for entertainment.

You actually need overhead lights for reading and writing, as well as outdoor lights for evening activities. Electric lights in and around the shed is also an important security measure. Lighting your isolated shed prevents intruders and strangers from lurking around.

4. Add windows –

Sheds are usually built to serve as storage, so they may not come with windows. If your shed does not have a window, then you absolutely need to install some, at the very least, two. Without windows, the shed will be musky and unpleasant. Two windows positioned across from each other will allow for proper ventilation and good natural light. For most people, this is a simple enough task, but others may need to get an expert to handle this or every part of the project.

5. Give life to your shed with a new coat of paint –

Colours give life to anything, and your shed is no different. Regardless of how good your shed currently looks, a new coat of paint inside and outside would do a world of good. Since most sheds are tiny, this aspect will take only a small amount of time to complete.

You can choose a colour scheme that complements the main house, or you can go with a unique scheme if the shed is some distance from your home. Your colour choice however should be warm and welcoming.

6. Put in some basic furniture –

Unless you plan on spending your whole time in the shed on the floor, you need to put in some basic furniture. The type of furniture will be determined by the size of the shed and the purpose it is being refitted for. However, items like a chair or two, a table, a lamp stand, a couch or a bed are basic requirements. Some of these items can be gotten cheap from second hand goods store, or you can raid your basement for furniture you no longer use. Alternatively, you can build some of these items by hand, if you are comfortable getting your hands dirty and know a thing or two about building furniture.

7. Put in plumbing

Plumbing may be necessary if you intend to have a toilet or bath area in or around the shed. For sheds that are close to the main house, this may not be necessary. However, if you decide you need plumbing, setting up one will not be too difficult. You can simply install a rudimentary shower system. For the toilet, a simple portable toilet can serve, or you can go with a pre-fab toilet, like those used in motor homes and campers. Once you have your pipes in place, you can easily tap water from the main house source.

8. Personalize your shed and make it welcoming

Finally, after putting everything in place, you need to make the shed welcoming. Maybe add a few personal touches like your favorite foot rug, a couple of picture frames, a potted plant or even some basic amenities like a small TV set. Another way you can make your livable shed welcoming is to ensure that it is free from insects, bugs and mosquitoes. Nothing frustrates a sound sleep as much as insect infestation. It will be a good idea if you can fumigate inside and around the shed before your guests arrive.


There you have it, eight simple steps you can take to convert your barn into a livable shed. Not only is this a very easy project, it is also quite low cost. Once you are done transforming your shed, you will have the perfect place to keep visitors, and a ready getaway for a bit of quiet time.

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An Attendee's Review Of Passion's New "Whole Heart" Album

Digitally-released today, and powerful in the conference or the quiet.
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So, I had the opportunity to attend Passion 2018 earlier this year, and it was pretty incredible, especially the worship music. A lot of it is new, and the friend who invited me told me how on the first day, you're actually kind of learning the new songs. By the end of the conference, however, these become songs you've started to get to know.

I say "started," because, with worship songs, I feel like they're like those Everlasting Gobstoppers you used to eat as a kid. As you go along, more begins to stand out to you the more you listen.

God speaks to you through one part of the song while you're at the conference, but you really let the words marinate, you listen to them again, and God speaks to you in different ways as you pass through different phases of life. You can remember the ways God spoke to you when you worshiped Him at the conference, and sometimes you hear different parts as you worship in the quiet places of your own life.

I also got an opportunity to listen to the album a little early and write a review, and I absolutely love it. Needless to say, some of you may have been counting down since the conference, but the day has arrived-- the "Whole Heart" album is finally available! It was released today, and features the following 11 songs:

1. Whole Heart (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics + chords)

2. Almighty God (feat. Sean Curran) (lyrics + chords)

3. God, You're So Good (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics + chords)

4. Reckless Love (feat. Melodie Malone) (lyrics + chords)

5. Heaven (feat. Sean Curran) (lyrics)

6. More Like Jesus (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics)

7. Hallelujah, Our God Reigns (feat. Brett Younker) (lyrics)

8. Ghost (feat. Crowder)

9. Ever Almighty (feat. Melodie Malone) (lyrics)

10. Great Are You Lord (feat. Matt Redman) (lyrics)

11. All My Hope (feat. Crowder & Tauren Wells) (lyrics)

The theme surrounding the album is, as Kristian Stanfill from Passion put it "a deeper devotion and discipleship to Jesus." It features the Passion Band (also including Brett Younker, Melodie Malone, and Sean Curran) and some of the conference's guest artists (Crowder, Matt Redman, Tauren Wells), and the songs are live - so in the background, there are over 30,000 students worshiping alongside the artists.

I really like looking along at the lyrics of songs, and since I was able to find all of them online except for "Ghost", I sat down and really listened to its words-- and I think it might be my new favorite right now. At the conference, it was "Whole Heart," but the powerfulness of the words in "Ghost" is really resonating with me at present.

A lot of my friends that attended the conference with me loved "God, You're So Good," and really, all of them are great. These are songs I'm going to end up singing throughout the day, and not even minding when they get stuck in my head.

So whether you buy this album to listen to the songs again, or to hear them for the first time, it's a great way to bring the worship from Passion into your house, your car, your friend group, wherever. Passion was amazing, and it's cool to be able to kind of "relive" that experience through the music.

However, our God is far from stagnant; he continues to work and move in our lives even as we disperse from the experience of the conference. Isaiah 43:19 says, "Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?" These songs remind me incredibly great our God is, and how he truly deserves my whole heart in worship.

(P.S. Snatch your own digital copy, available through iTunes, Google Play, Amazon Music and more, here through the Passion Music site!)


Cover Image Credit: Nicole Elianna

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