If I Should Have A Child Someday, I Hope She Is Tall

If I Should Have A Child Someday, I Hope She Is Tall

For the girls made to stand in the back during class pictures, I have some advice for you.
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If should have a child someday, I hope she is tall. It’s not that I would love any gender, race, shape or size child any less than another, but I have some thoughts to share with tall girls on the subject of growing up.

Like when she is going through puberty: I would tell her the reason certain size pants, shirts and jackets do not fit her the same way they do some other girls is because she has longer arms, a longer torso and longer legs than other girls do. And because anything in a size “tall” also assumes that the wearer is not curvy in any way. Her size is perfect the way it is. To allow a label to define her self-worth is a recipe for an empty existence.

On dating: Attraction, be it physical, emotional and/or intellectual, one prominent concept defines the difference between a romantic interest and a platonic one. Physical attraction plays a prominent role when differentiating friendship and relationships. It’s not superficial to think so, but simply the fact that people are attracted to different physical attributes. If the attraction is not there than the relationship may not be either. Tall girls are supposed to be attracted to tall guys, they are supposed to only date tall guys. Otherwise, society tells us that it doesn’t look right. Society is wrong. We should be looking at the couple in how they see each other. So date tall or date short, date whomever you choose. Don't base that choice on society’s expectations.

When she is picking out shoes for prom: If you are in love with a pair of shoes, put them back on the shelf because they are too expensive not because the heel is too high. Your date, be it a young man or a young woman or just a group of friends, should not be a determining factor in your choice of footwear. I remember when I was at the mall searching desperately for kitten heels that went with my dress and ignoring the beautiful heels that were more than two inches in fear that my date would look short. In my exasperating search, a woman working at one of the stores said one very simple thing to me: “Girl, if you look good in the shoes why should anything else matter. You’re tall, and you should rock that sh*t." Since that day, I can proudly say that I have purchased and even ruined some beautiful heels of all sizes

Tall is beautiful.

To that assh*le at the party who asks who invited the Amazons: First of all, this guy single-handedly is trying to turn the concept of a planet of independent, confident, sexy and fearless women into an insult. I do not think I need to elaborate on how short-sighted that is. To that small-minded individual that tries to turn your gift of being tall into a negative thing, know that if you were actually an Amazon it would be all too easy to physically crush him into the tiny being that he is so that his outsides reflect his insides.

When you’re taking a group photo with people shorter than you: Don't you ever shrink for anyone. Don’t you ever slouch to make others appear taller. If the people you surround yourself with expect you to hunch down so they look taller, then you need new people. By physically shrinking you are basically saying to those people in the photo and the world that you are willing to make yourself smaller to build others up when you should be building yourself up and inspiring and supporting others to do the same. Never make your star less bright so others can shine. If you are perfectly who you are and comfortable with who that person is, people will come to you. In a group of friends there should be a balance and a desire to empower one another.

In no way is this advice only applicable for young tall women, but that is my point of reference when machete-ing my way through the jungle that is adolescence. That’s exactly it. I know these things because I experienced them firsthand and am guilty of learning them the hard way and eventually discovering for myself what it truly means to stand tall. As parents, for which I have no point of reference only my personal conjecture, we should want to start our kids off confidently, especially with the ever growing rates of depression and suicide. We should be celebrating self-confidence and with that perhaps future generations can accomplish more without focusing on the trivial.

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15 Texts We'd Get From Dogs If They Had Thumbs

"If you're reading this, send Milk Bones."
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Let's be real, anyone who has a dog knows that it if we could, we would text our dogs all day long. If they could text us, our thread would look something like...

1. "Are you coming home soon?! Let's go out!"

2. "So not to be weird... but you never ended up answering me last night... Am I the good boy? Idk I just want to be clear on our relationship I don't want to be lead on if I'm not."

3. "The cat is being such a bit** I literally can't stand her"

4. "Hey, just wondering, are you going to wear those black booties tonight? If you are, I'll chew the zipper out of the brown ones instead."

5. "Okay, so don't freak out, but something not so chill happened on the rug..."

6. "Are there any leftovers in the trash? I'm not gonna get into it, I was just curious. Love u."

7. "If you're reading this... bring Milk Bones."

8. "Hey, what's for dinner tonight?! Purina again?"

9. "Miss you!!"

10. "Are you gonna eat that food on the counter or is that for everyone? Asking for the cat."

11. "I LOVE YOU"

12. "OMG, I can't wait for you to come home on break! Can you sleep in the guest room tho? Mom said I could have your room when you moved out. Love u!"

13. "Ice cream date later?!"

14. "We should go for a walk I need to get my ass back in shape for summer. You should be my workout buddy!"

15. "Netflix and chill tonight?"

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What I Miss Most About Home

College makes you thankful for the little things at home.

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I love college. I love the freedom and responsibility that comes with this experience. Since I thought about college I have always thought of going far away from home and being independent and able to spread my wings.

When I made the three hours move to college all I thought about was the glamours picture I had painted in my head from movies in combination with visits to my campus.

I thought about all the new stuff I had bought, the ability to go to bed whenever I wanted or eat when I please(not that I couldn't before but now there's no one to stop me or question the time of my activity). College was going to be great.

After getting here I realized a twin size bed is for children, dining halls suck and sleeping is a privilege.

I have never craved my mother's poorly made spaghetti more than in my time at school. Home cooked meals were an everyday occurrence even though sometimes they lacked( sorry mom) either way, I never really appreciated them. I always wanted to go out to eat or get pizza.

Looking back I don't know what was wrong with me because I would kill for some rice made in a bag and chicken from a can but only from my parents, it just wouldn't be the same if I made it now.

No one wants to share a room, at 19 years old, being independent is a must and sometimes it feels impossible when you live with another human being 5 feet away from you.

The temperature may not always be what you like and you may have alternate cleaning patterns. Sleeping is a privilege in a dorm. When you have people on either side of your room and above you and below you, if one person is up later than you, you're going to know.

Let alone when that person lives in your room, and goes to bed later than you or gets up earlier or gets sick with bronchitis and constantly coughs throughout the night (guilty).

Being Healthy is not appreciated as much as it should. When living so close to other people you're bound to get ill.

My average right now is about once a month I get cold or flu-like symptoms with some bonus illnesses here and there for an extra surprise.

At home, where your parents clean and you live with maybe three people, sickness is usually twice a year roughly.

It is almost Russian roulette to see what week you'll have your cold this month, maybe your test heavy week or possibly your week of long drawn out assignments that you must complete while on your deathbed.

Overall, college is great (10/10 recommend) but there will be some things you miss about home that you never thought about before coming to this loud, germ-filled place with poorly cooked food.

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