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An Open Bus Tour
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These tours are so much fun on a nice, warm summer night!
Find A Restaurant With A Skyline View
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Perfect opportunity to mingle with friends!
Picnic In Bryant Park
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This park is beautiful in the summer time.
Walk The High Line
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The High Line is always bustling.
See A Show and Walk Times Square
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Times Square is always full of energy.
Summer in the city is almost just as amazing as the holidays in the city.
Netflix
If you haven't watched it yet, gather your friends, pop the popcorn and unwrap the chocolates. It is Valentine's weekend and that means it's time for cheesy Netflix movies.
Here are a few takeaways and thoughts my friends and I had last night while watching this at one in the morning in our sorority's basement.
"Are you okay?"
Cue the "aww" cute puppy dog face emoji about Peter's response to Lara Jean's Stanford rejection letter. He handled it well, especially when he asked if she was okay. Then he convinced her to possibly transfer to Stanford after her freshman year, but the next day she began to fall in love with New York...
When Peter took off his face mask and acted like his skin was just ripped off his face...?
It's okay Kavinsky, it's just a simple sheet mask that moisturizes your skin and unclogs pores. No need to be dramatic
What the heck is a “meet-cute?”
Is it just my friend group or has anyone else never heard this term? Is the movie trying to make this a trend? What's the problem with just saying "we met at _____" ???
Kitty constantly speaks her mind and she is NOT afraid to hold back
PERIOD. Everyone needs a little sister to keep them in check, and Lara Jean got just that
Why do all movies focus on some of the biggest and most competitive schools?
Why couldn't have the characters gone to the University of Virginia and William & Mary like in the "To All The Boys" books?
Also, side note, did anyone else notice the "High School Musical" parallel going on? Troy went to Berkeley and Gabriella went to Stanford, just sayin'...
The yearbook "contract"
That scene just melted all of our hearts. Yes, it was predictable and cheesy, but what else would you really expect? It was cute, the wedding decorations were beautiful, and everything was beautifully executed.
As much as it is cheesy and unrealistic, parts of it are also very realistic no matter your age
I am happy and proud that Lara Jean followed her heart to NYU. If she and Kavinsky are meant to be together, they'll make it work. If she had gone to Berkeley an hour away from him, she would've been thinking about the "what ifs" of New York the entire time. It's important to go outside of your comfort zone and do what is best for you, not what is best for the boy. Life doesn't always go as planned, and this movie is the perfect example of that.
Now they're all off to college, exploring new places, meeting new people, and trying new things. Here's to unpredictable futures and crazy life plans.
Paramount Pictures
Perhaps this surreal a-ha moment happened to you when you danced in your bedroom at night. Performing for imaginary cameras, you hum and sway. However, you become embarrassed as you trip - and feel unforgivably un-hot - for your audience of zero. The sensation is absurd. It's in those moments that Margaret Atwood's poetry appears true.
"Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."
What is the male gaze? From what context did the male gaze emerge?
While this familiar feeling is psychosocial, the term "male gaze" was originally coined by Laura Mulvey in 1973 to talk about the ways in which women in art are placed as objects of heterosexual male desire. Obviously, heterosexual male desire is the ever-present subject. A woman's complex feelings, interesting thoughts, and own sexual ambitions are less important than her male framing. Examples of the male gaze abound in tropes like the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" or female superheroes who always must be sensual.
But this idea permeates beyond the screen. As art imitates actuality, and/or vice-versa, the male gaze has become a frustrating perspective with pervasive psychological consequences.
As an ideological cornerstone of patriarchy, socio-political disparities are realized within an antiquated value system, by which male-created institutions (e.g the entertainment industry, advertising, fashion, etc.) unilaterally circumscribe what is standard in society. You can just think of the internalized male gaze as a facet and an outcome of the patriarchy.
Over generations, as women have been socially coerced into placing more importance on their looks, women might internalize this observer view of their appearances as the central way to think about themselves. This concept is problematic, of course, because women may end up placing greater value on how they look than how they feel.
An important aside for a later article: the neoliberal/choice "feminism" of Barstool, Goop, and MLMs - which emphasizes being a "girl-boss," doing "self-care" so that you can be productive at a job that does not pay you well enough, and using (white) empowerment as a marketing technique - does not help women level the male gaze. In neoliberal/choice feminism, objectification and pornography, (which are inherently rooted in the male gaze), have simply been rebranded as sexual emancipation. In fact, this misguided step towards sexual equality has colonized and exploited feminism. We should look somewhere else besides mainstream corporations for such intimate solutions in gender equity. We are better off practicing critical reasoning, introspection, and grace.
So, now what?
When I realize I'm performing for the patriarchy, I try to avoid feeling guilty about my internalized male gaze. Due to the immersive nature of the U.S. American social systems, women are victims of and participants in this sort of sexism. Instead of feeling shame, I vow to unlearn what I've been spoon-fed.
I ask myself who my performative actions are benefitting. If the actions are only benefiting men, my little show must be reassessed. But, if the actions benefit me - or other women - the spectatorship is decidedly less harmful. It is in this way that women can function with the most benefit. If a woman's existence hinges upon the masculine gaze, she then has the ability to manipulate the system in which she is seen, becoming the one who commands this visual economy.
Big picture: deconstructing the thought of the male gaze indicates that all participants in society must deliberately subvert the masculine perspective's chokehold by blurring gender boundaries. And, obviously, people who identify as women should be in the literal director's seat and metaphorical driver's seat more often.
For the individual: along with a salubrious dose of patience with yourself, the only actionable conclusion that I can draw is that femininity is not fixed and should be not enclosed like feminine stereotypes are usually categorized.
A woman may not own the notion of the gaze, but she can control and shift it to her benefit. That indisputable fact is what you have in your control.
