Why Millennials Aren't Getting Married — Including Me

I'm A Millennial And I Don't Want To Get Married (By Law, That Is)

The era of marriage is slowly withering.


A really weird secret about me is that I love rom-coms. All romantic comedies have a message about love and the weird ways that love works. Sometimes everything may go as planned, and other times Murphy's law is in full effect. There really is no grey area when it comes to movies, but the grey area in real life regarding relationships and marriage is growing every day.

Marriage is becoming scary more and more with each and every divorce you hear about, break up that you see, and every time you swipe for the "perfect" match. The fear of ending up with someone who really wasn't the right match is not only embarrassing (I mean imagine all the posts you made and legal work you went through), but it is also scarring. It may not leave a physical scar, but you will forever be known as an ex-wife or husband. So now the opportunity of getting it right on the first try is gone. Marriage is meant to happen once, unfortunately, that doesn't always go that way.

There is a lot to think about when it comes to marriage. The list of worries could go on forever, but I know for sure that I don't want to get married at all (By law that is). Marriage by law is a completely useless concept to me. Binding two people's possessions, earnings, and practically their lives together make marriage look like a legal contract. Marriage to me is a love bondage between two people that have accepted that they want no one else. True love is what marriage is. It isn't a ticking time bomb waiting to blow up and ruin your life.

Seeing that my parents have been married (through a love bondage) for so long gives me hope that true marriage can still be achieved and sustained. Love is constantly in the air and in its purest form gives berth to the beauty that marriage can actually be. Those who have been married will tell you that it isn't easy, but its worth it. Those who have been divorced will tell you that it isn't for everybody (just like everything else). But you will never really know until you try for yourself.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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