There Are Days When I Don't Feel 'Good Enough,' But I'm Working On That

There Are Days When I Don't Feel 'Good Enough,' But I'm Working On That

Sometimes, I feel like I'm unseen or not enough for others.

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I compare myself to others a lot. It's not healthy. I wish I didn't do it, but I do. Somehow, thoughts like, "She's so much prettier than me," "If I was as funny as them people would like me more," "If I was a more 'relatable' people might want to be better friends with me," but the worst one is "I'll never be as good as them."

These simple but powerful words hurt. These are the thoughts that put me down. I tend to tell myself I could be so much better. I hate it, but I'm working on it. I'm trying my best to believe in myself. I'm working hard to realize I am good enough.

I think a lot of this stems from my childhood. I have always been competitive, so I compared myself to others around me all the time. I always wanted to win in games. I wanted to be the one who looked at herself and finally saw I have talents, people actually do like me, I don't need to be "pretty" to win the approval of others, but I still feel that way.

I grew up around girls who were, as I say, better at life than I am.

They had boyfriends. They were always with their friends. They knew how to dress. I never felt that way. I didn't feel like I was good enough to be a part of daily life. Again, I'm working on that. I'm doing my best to realize it's okay to be who I am.

If I'm being honest with you, I love who I am. That does not mean I don't have days where I look at people around me and wish I was like them. There are still days I see how successful my peers are and wish I could be like them. There are still days I wish my disability didn't exist, but it makes me who I am and I actually love it.

There are days when I don't feel good enough, but thankfully, I have people who surround me and love me well. They see the good in me and they let me know. They tell me what I need to hear when I've been hard on myself. They look at me and they see something completely different.

Being good enough isn't important. As long as I see myself in a positive way, I don't care if I'm not worthy of other's approval. I don't need it in the long run. There may be days when I feel worthless and empty, but I know I'm harder on myself than I should be.

So, here's to right now. Here's to becoming confident and believing in myself. Here's to realizing how important I am. Here's to knowing I am good enough. I am important and I am needed in this world.

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care In Your Everyday Life, In 20 Minutes Or Less

Simple ways to start taking care of yourself.

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Life is overwhelming and distracting so it's easy to forget about yourself sometimes, but practicing small self-care acts is easy. Making time for yourself every day isn't selfish and is really good for your mental health. I think it's important for everyone to spend time doing things that make them happy and more calm, even if you only dedicate 20 minutes each day. Putting yourself first can lead to growth so many other aspects of your life.

Obviously, each person is allowed to practice self-care in their own unique way, but here are some ideas to get you started!

1. Do something new. 

2. Make a list of things you need to get done that week. 

3. Drink some hot tea. 

4. Go for a walk on a scenic trail.

5. Paint your nails.

6. Have a good laugh.

7. Buy yourself flowers.

8. Light a candle.

9. Do some tidying up.

10. Don't feel bad for saying 'no.'

11. Listen to music.

12. Slow down.

13. Drink a smoothie.

14. Run mindless errands.

15. Write down your goals for the week.

16. Talk to someone about the future.

17. Wake up early and get coffee. 

18. Take care of a plant. 

19. Take a bubble bath. 

20. Give yourself a compliment.

21. Give a stranger a compliment.

22. Watch a movie.

23. Put your phone down.

24. Declutter your personal space.

25. Go to bed early. 

26. Pray or meditate. 

27. Go for a drive. 

28. Make it a habit to stargaze. 

29. Read a book. 

30. Read poems. 

31. Sing loudly. 

32. Make a list of things you're grateful for. 

33. Drink a lot of water. 

34. Put on make-up for no reason.

35. Watch funny videos. 

36. Take a deep breath. 

37. Distance yourself from negativity. 

38. Unfollow people you don't care to follow on social media. 

39. Have a pajama day. 

40. Read an inspirational book. 

41. Call your parents/ loved ones. 

42. Donate old clothing. 

43. Dedicate a day out of the week to not eating meat. 

44. Do a fun craft or DIY project. 

45. Put on a face mask and relax. 

46. Do a small workout. 

47. Take a power nap. 

48. Listen to a podcast. 

49. Open a window. 

50. Open your curtains in the morning to let in natural light. 

51. Make your bed. 

52. Cook dinner instead of eating out. 

53. Play/ cuddle with an animal. 

54. At the end of the day, think of all the positive things that happened.

55. Moisturize. 

56. Buy a comforting blanket. 

57. Give someone a hug. 

58. Create a vision board. 

59. Have some alone time.

60. Enjoy the sun on your skin. 

61. Dance like nobody is watching.

62. Walk in the rain every once in a while. 

63. Drive with the windows down. 

64. Give someone a gift for no reason. 

65. Get a massage. 

66. Do something that gets your adrenaline running. 

67. Spend the day at the library or a book store. 

68. Organize your work space/ binders. 

69. Spend a weekend in. 

70. Recognize hard work and reward yourself. 

71. Sign up for a work out class. 

72. Eat lunch with a friend. 

73. Spend the day helping others. 

74. Get your hair done. 

75. Have a good cry. 

76. Use sticky notes. 

77. Color code your planner. 

78. Print out pictures and hang them up. 

79. Hang motivational quotes on your mirror and read them when you get ready. 

80. Do random acts of kindness. 

81. Buy fuzzy socks. 

82. Redecorate or rearrange furniture. 

83. Be present. 

84. Set a new years resolution. 

85. Make a bucket list. 

86. Stretch in the morning. 

87. Watch an interesting documentary. 

88. Make a music playlist.

89. Watch the sunrise or sunset. 

90. Explore somewhere new.

91. Be slow to respond to negativity. 

92. Have a game night with friends. 

93. Buy concert tickets. 

94. Have a nightly routine before bed. 

95. Eat your favorite dessert. 

96. Do something you've been putting off. 

97. Invest in essential oils. 

98. Manage your finances. 

99. Buy a new outfit. 

100. Make your own gratitude list. 

Try at least one of these every week and see how you feel! I guarantee you will notice a difference in the way you are living your life.

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Sis, You're Beautiful But That's Not All You Got

No matter what they say about you let me tell you what God says about you.

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Lately, I've been having beauty and image on my mind a lot. I used to ALWAYS have self-image and body image on my mind constantly in an unhealthy, insecure way so having it on my mind again made me nervous. Then I remembered as I began writing this to you that God usually teaches me what to write before he gives me what to write.

I encountered a lot of different standards and expectations of beauty when I was younger. I still face a lot of different ones today but the first affirmations of beauty I got came from my family. These words and beliefs have always been a solid rock for me and I'd like to share them with you.

You're beautiful. You've always been beautiful. I know you think you look different today or maybe you thought you looked more beautiful at different events or time periods or seasons but you've always been beautiful.

You're made in God's image and in his likeness so you couldn't be anything but beautiful (Genesis 1:27). You know what he says about you?

He says you're fearfully and wonderfully made and wonderful are his works (Psalm 139:14). He was talking about you. He was talking about us. After he made man, he said and it was good (Genesis 1:27).

"God is not human, that he should lie,
not a human being, that he should change his mind.
Does he speak and then not act?
Does he promise and not fulfill?" (Numbers 23:19)

The things he has not only whispered to you about you but the dreams he's painted for you that you're not even sure how to achieve are all real whether you choose to believe it or not because he can not lie.

God telling you you're beautiful and helping you with school or work is just as true as him being able to change you, your circumstances and the course of your life if you have faith in him.

You know why the world's beauty standards don't work? Because they're deceitful. They constantly change, lie, exclude and the answer is always moving. They're inconsistent and forever changing. People's moods and opinions of things change over a million times a day. Now you tell me if that sounds like a good place to put your trust in who you think you are.

There's more to you than your beauty.

There's no one else in this world like you. When God made you he put you in a class all by yourself. He didn't make anyone else on this earth that can do what you can do the way you do it.

He didn't give anyone else your charisma, your flair, the way you laugh, the way you think, the way you love, the way you fight, the way you care, the way you pray, the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you blush, the way you stand up to things, your style, the way you see things and more. He made you your own person with your own mind. You don't have to be like anyone else because if it was God's mission for you to be the woman next to you then he's smart enough to not waste the life flowing through your veins right now.

If you're breathing then you have a purpose. If you're here to see another day then there's still purpose left in you. Do you see what He's trying to tell you here?

There's more to you then how you look. There's more put in you than the mistakes you've made. There's more to you than your wrongdoings. There's more to you than the times you've quit. There's more to you than your good days and there's more to you than your "off" days. There's more to you than your failures. There's more to you than your insecurities or what you consider your greatest accomplishments. There's more to you than your circumstance and your background. There's more to you than what you're willing to talk about out loud and there's more to you than what you're easily ready to boast about.

There's more to the story.

You are not your mistakes. You are not what you've done. Even when you don't believe it or understand it and even when they lie on your name.

You will always be who God says you are.

There's more to the story he has written for you that you or I could even imagine writing. You're beautiful because you are his.

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