This is a message to all women who are spending too much time thinking about their old friendships.

Thinking too much about the past deters you from creating a better future.

Personally, I have given up so many friendships. More than I can count on two hands. Not one hand, two. I have been hurt so bad by people who I have considered my best friends. It is one of the shittiest feelings in the whole world, but I guess time has healed me.

Sometimes I sit and think about what these people have done to me. Rereading old messages, looking back at pictures, seeing posts. It kills me. It kills me because it reminds me how hurt I was.

Releasing yourself from toxic friendships and people is such a hard thing to do.

It is so hard, yet so refreshing.

Sometimes I think back to all the advice I have given. All the days my shoulders were open for everyone to cry on. I was just an open bandaid that healed everyone's pain.

I had put so much effort and energy into supporting and loving my friends.

All of that, for nothing.

Ever feel like a tiny, irrelevant thing in this crazy world? Ever feel like there was something wrong with you? Do you ever feel so alone that you force a smile every day just to get by?

You are not alone. You are so amazing. You deserve the world.

Please do not let other people's careless words and actions impair your judgment of who you think you are.

What kills me the most is that these people think nothing is wrong. How can you not be conscious of the actions you have made? How can you not feel bad that you allowed yourself to say those things?

What determines a person is not what others say about them, but how they talk about others.

This is my favorite quote because people tend to forget that the same person talking about their friends, is probably talking about you.

I see all of these posts about being "Best friends forever." Oh yeah? This is the same girl who said she was in love with your boyfriend. This is the same girl who said she was embarrassed to be seen with you.

Ladies, please be aware of the people you surround yourself with.

Do not let these friendships eat you alive to this day. Please move on.

Meet new friends who truly love and support you.

Sincerely, the girl who learned the same lesson over 10 times.