A few days ago, I had a very interesting conversation about humility. I think that today people view humility as not calling attention to your talents and discrediting and under selling your abilities, even if you may feel you are good at it. To calm that you are good at something is seen as cocky and that you think you are above everyone else.

When did being confident, and so authentic with yourself that you know your strengths and weaknesses become something that is found as annoying and almost a character flaw? When did discrediting and diminishing yourself become an act of grace and accepted by society?

It's hard enough growing up in a world where it feels like everyone is always judging you for how smart you are, how social, the way you dress, what you eat, how much money you have and so much more. It feels like you are constantly being torn down by other people.

Not to mention because we are always judged by others we become hypercritical of yourselves. When it feels like we are constantly tearing ourselves down or that others are tearing us down, why should it be frowned upon if you call recognition to the one thing that you might actually like about ourselves?

I’m not trying to say that the people that are completely self-absorbed have life figure out.

They are black to the self-discrediting white from above. We do know that one person that puts themselves up on maybe a little too high of a pedestal. These people can be hard to be around so I’m not trying to suggest people should overplay their abilities instead of underplaying them.

To me, the definition of humility is the grey. It is the person that knows their strengths and weakness and is proud of it but don’t let it go to their head.

To be humble is to know your skills and your place in the world, it's not making yourself seem less amazing than you are because if you go through life always discrediting yourself one day you might actually wake up and actually start believing you are not good at anything.