A few nights ago, I asked myself if breaking up with my last boyfriend was the right decision. I needed to feel as if there was a point behind all this heartbreak, that it was worth it.

Soon enough, I found out the cold, hard truth.

I discovered why he hadn't reached out to me and why he had somehow found a way to detach himself from all our memories. He had found somebody new.

It wasn't surprising.

In some weird way, it felt comforting to know he was happy. However, it still hurt. Maybe it was because I wasn't quite ready to kiss somebody else yet, or because I wasn't entirely sure I wanted a relationship at this point in my life. It had been two months since we broke up, but suddenly, it felt like just yesterday.

While I poured my heart out to my friends, I realized how important it was to fully move on, but how difficult it was when the one you love moves faster than you.

Do not stalk their new person.

No matter how much you're dying to know what she looks like, what type of friends she has, and what kind of car her mom bought her for her 16th birthday, it's not worth it. There will be endless amounts of heartbreak tied to this action. Even if you happen to stumble across her gorgeously edited Instagram, do not spend your entire night on her account trying to compare your legs to hers.

You are beautiful in your own way, and there are so many qualities you have that are unique. Even though he moved on and it hurts, that doesn't automatically make her the devil.

Find a new hobby, and use it to get your mind off the one you love.

Throwing yourself into something new can be exciting, especially when you're passionate about it. There's something about trying something new and falling in love with it that just makes you feel on cloud nine. Use this positive energy to fuel your passions. Let yourself try a new activity instead of spending time in your room pining about your ex.

Whether it be a club, a new class, or even just something new off the internet, let it be your distraction. It'll have a better outcome, trust me.

Meet new people and be open to new experiences.

Yes, I'm talking about (dare I say it?) dating. I know. It's weird, it's scary, and it's almost like throwing yourself into the deep end of a murky pool. Although it might seem impossible, say yes to that guy in your chem lab who asks you out on a date. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Maybe he won't be the "one", or maybe he could be a really good friend.

Whatever the outcome is, do not close yourself off and guard your heart. You'll never know until you try.

Cry it out...again, again, and again.

Watching someone you still love fall in love with someone else is kind of like being stabbed with a butcher knife in your heart several times. I would be lying if I said I didn't spend a few nights in my dorm to myself, sobbing and watching cute Netflix movies. It's okay to cry. Essentially, you're feeling all of the same feelings from the heartbreak all over again.

Let yourself go through the grief.

Surround yourself with the best people possible.

You're going through a rough time, and you should have people who understand that and are gentle with your feelings. A good girl gang, family, or any source of positive energy are essential when you just need someone to talk to. People who give you good energy will always make you feel on top of the world.

I'm lucky enough to have amazing best friends that understand my emotions, keep me healthy with my thoughts, and remind me that I will always be amazing, with or without him.

Do not let their new relationship control your decisions.

You do not owe him anything anymore. He is not yours. He belongs to someone else. That might be the hardest pill to swallow, but you do not have to continue worrying about his happiness, no matter how much you love him. You need to put yourself first. Even if they do end up breaking up, do not take that as a sign to run back to him.

You are your own person, and you are in charge of your life, so go out there and get the best.

You are not forced to move on because they are.

So you went out on a date with that kid in your chem lab. It was fun, and you had a good time, but at the end of the night, you find yourself uneasy and unable to initiate intimacy. You are not crazy. You're just not ready. It's okay to feel as if you need more time to think about what you really want.

Plus, it wouldn't really be fair to someone who's really interested in you to feel second place to your ex. Just be honest with yourself about what you want.

Let go of the idea that the two of you will get back together in the future.

It's a tale as old as time: you meet again a few years down the line, you talk for hours on end, and suddenly, you're back together. It's a fantasy that lingers in the back of everyone's mind. However, that is not how life goes. It's incredibly impractical, and by holding onto that idea, you are only holding yourself back from future experiences.

If he's the one, it would've worked the first time. Don't allow yourself to fall so deep into this fantasy. It's not healthy for your heart.

Delete every single thing that could remind you of the person.

If you haven't already done this during the initial breakup phase, now is the time. There is no reason to keep the photos, the texts, or the gifts. You need a clean break. Also, he definitely isn't holding onto any memoirs, so you are better off just biting the bullet, burning the pictures, and removing any trace of him from your life, no matter how painful.

Always remember: you are amazing, no matter what.

I know it feels like you've been replaced, but you have not. He's just living his life, and you should too. You deserve your magical love story, and although it's not with this person, you will find something one day that makes all the pain worth it.

Even though pain is inevitable, and moving on might be the hardest pill ever to swallow, it's bound to happen, and I can ensure you that someday it won't hurt as much. As time goes on, I learn more about myself every day and what I want out of my future relationships, and I've realized that I do not have to compete with him to see who can move on the quickest.

I am going at my own pace, following my heart and deciding what works for me. One day, I will be able to look him in the eye and say to myself, "this is not what I want anymore." Someday, you'll meet someone else too, and slowly, the heartache will fade and everything will fall into place.