To The Friend Who's Definitely NOT The Mom Friend

To The Friend Who's Definitely NOT The Mom Friend

Being the mom friend is SO overrated.
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I see all of these articles on the internet titled, "I'm The Mom Friend And That's Okay," or "How you Know That You're the Mom Friend." Well to all of you "moms" of your friend group, congrats! I hope you enjoy feeding me saltines after a night out and knitting me sweaters. There are all of these articles out there that are justifying this motherly lifestyle and applauding these friends for being so responsible.

Those articles are great and all, but it's time for those of us that aren't the "mom friend" to get the credit that we deserve.

So. here's to us! We're the ones that will never tell you that you are dressed too inappropriately. There's a really good chance that we'll tell you that texting your ex is a great idea and we're going to ask the Uber driver what his craziest story is. No, we aren't going to ask you if you did your homework before we go out, that's weird. We're the "wait, has anyone seen my phone?" girls. We order two meals at McDonald's and fall asleep in our makeup. We're a great time! Yeah, we might not have it all together, but what's so wrong with being the typical college girl?

To all of the "mom friends" out there, we thank you. Because of you, there will always be a clean apartment, a smart and reasonable decision maker, a way home, snacks, and a shoulder to cry on.There's nothing wrong with having it all together like you do, but I'll never be you and that's okay. I have the whole rest of my life to become a mom and I don't really plan on starting anytime soon.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.
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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!

JQ

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To My Friends Who Are In Love...

Thank you for giving me real relationship goals

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There are no words to express how happy I am for you all.

After being witness to the tears, heartache and sadness your exes caused, I am so grateful you all found people that see how beautiful you all are and are gentle with your hearts.

As your friend, it comforts me knowing you all are with people that would never, ever purposefully hurt you.

It is also comforting to know that you are being taken care of emotionally. They don't belittle or discourage you, but instead motivate and challenge you. They enhance your lives, rather than take away from them.

It makes me happy seeing you all with people that are supportive. People that want you to experience life's opportunities and appreciate your desires to see the world– and rather than holding you back, let you go without an ultimatum.

I love hearing about kind things they do for you.

Whether it's them buying flowers, surprise getaway dates, poems and letters, or just showing appreciation for you– it makes me happy knowing they are treating you.

Or like one of you telling me about a night out and that when you got a little too drunk at the bars, your boyfriend didn't get mad or shame you for your intoxication, but instead got you home safely, made you something to eat and even made sure you took your makeup off– he's a keeper.

I'm happy you are with people that are proud to be by your side. When it comes to your relationships, they don't care what people have to say. They proudly hold your hands, kiss you, post pictures with you, gush about you to their friends and take you home to their families.

Lastly, I'm grateful you all feel loved in return– you all deserve the world and nothing less.

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