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The Big 3 Rules Of How To Survive A Long-Distance Relationship

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Regardless if you and your significant other have been together for three months or three years, when one of you moves it will seem like the world is against you. From personal experience, I know this pain all too well. When I met my boyfriend he lived an hour and a half away and at first, it wasn't bad.

Every weekend I was leaving town to spend the weekend with him. It was only four times a month but those four times a month are what kept me going. Let me update you, he now lives 17 hours away from me. So no, I can't just go see him because I miss him. I have to take time off work, buy a plane ticket and go see the man I love. Let me just tell you, it is so hard. What I have learned is that surviving this is actually easy.

It's three steps.

Trust yourself and your partner

Unfortunately, if you haven't thought of this already, someone has mentioned it to you by now. Trust is the key to every relationship. If you can't fully trust your significant other or yourself then you sure as hell can't survive a long distance relationship. It's not easy, the insecure part of you will put thoughts in your mind that have no reason to be there. But once you start to trust in yourself and in your partner, well you are already half-way there. Personally, I like to write all of my thoughts down.

When that person from school texts you, "Hey (with unnecessary emojis)" a small part of you might think, what if. Well, what if instead of giving into your "needs," you wrote it down. I made a list of reasons why I am doing what I am. I write down why I love him, why he makes me a better person. Instead of doing wrong, do something good.

Know that it will be hard

I won't sugar coat this. This is going to extremely hard. What I will tell you is that it every minute away will be worth every minute when you do get to be together. What I have learned is that it won't sink in right away. For me, it took a week. At first, I was upset because I knew I would miss him. What you don't realize is that one day you will wake up and grasp that they aren't there. If you live together, you get ready alone now. If you don't live together you can still call and text but you can't just run over to say hello anymore. If you know that it's going to be hard, then you already know that it will get better.

Appreciate the little things

This is the most cliche saying out there but it is the most honest saying too. Don't focus on how many miles away your significant other is. Focus on the phone calls, the texts, and all the ways you are still connected. When you finally get to see them, soak in every little moment. Instead of counting down the days until you get to see them, better yourself and find ways to keep you busy and happy. We both know they wouldn't want you sulking all day, so appreciate their love for you and your love for yourself.

Coming from a personal standpoint. This is not something you need to struggle with. This is something that can make you and your relationship stronger than ever. If you can do one thing let it be this. Don't let some random number of miles on Google Maps change the way you love someone or yourself.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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